Later Mom Features
AGE: 44 (Turning 45 on 3/16)
RELATIONSHIP STATUS: Single (divorced twice)
RESIDENCE: Saratoga Springs, NY
CHILD’S NAME/AGE: Emerald Warner Marshall, age 2
I was born in New York City to Warner and Kay LeRoy- creators and owners of Great Adventure, Tavern on the Green, Maxwell’s Plum and The Russian Tea Room. I starting working in the restaurant business in high school and received training from Drew Nieporent (Tribeca Grill, Nobu). who was a manager at Maxwell’s Plum. I worked in two of Drew’s restaurants during college and then returned to Tavern on the Green as a manager. I was eventually promoted to Vice President of LeRoy Adventures, my father’s umbrella company, and became executor of the LeRoy estate after my father died in 2001. Today, I have a separate career but continue to support my family in managing the legacy of the LeRoy name, and by working closely with my sister, Jennifer Oz LeRoy who owns Oz Farm and Events. Since graduating in 2013 with my Master’s in Social Work, and getting my license, I have been dedicated to the mental health and well-being of children and adults in the Capital Region, with a focus on suicide prevention. I worked at Ellis Medicine as a psychotherapist on the inpatient unit of the adolescent psychiatric ward, and eventually as an outpatient psychotherapist at the adult clinic. I loved my job but recently left to launch my business as a sports psychology consultant, Equesting, out of Oz Farm in Saugerties, NY.
What was your road to parenthood like? My pregnancy was a complete surprise- I had reservations, almost opposition, to having a baby since I was an adolescent. In January 2014, I switched from the birth control pill to an IUD. My GYN told me I needed to be off the pill for at least a month and have my period naturally before placing the IUD. (I have since learned this is false.) I was on the pill since I was 18, and I was now 41, so my husband and I decided to not worry about a possible pregnancy. I had always been told that it would take at least 3 months to get pregnant after the pill, so one month would be safe”. (Also false, as I was soon to ﬁnd out.)
My GYN advised me to continue using protection, but my husband and I weren’t that active sexually, so what were the chances, right?! (I later learned that the ﬁrst month off long term pill use makes you more likely to get pregnant.) I got my period a few days after Valentine’s Day, it was a Monday, and I called the doctor to set up an appointment for Tuesday. Monday night there was a HUGE snowstorm. I carefully made my way to the doctor’s ofﬁce for my 7am appointment. The waiting area was empty, but there were a lot of delays due to the storm, so I sat and waited. And waited And waited. Around 10am, I found out the doctor closed the ofﬁce due to the storm. I trudged home and planned to return later that week. The doctor told me to wait another month. I found out I was pregnant in March. My due date was November 15th, exactly 9 months after Valentine’s Day… I have since come to believe that my daughter was meant to be- and nothing was going to stop her from arriving. Not even a silly snowstorm.
How does being a mom inﬂuence your work? It affects it in every way- from the logistical to the physical, emotional and philosophical. The biggest impact was philosophically and ethically. I worked with children, many of them badly abused. I worked with their parents who, like me, were trying to do their best. I empathized with both and found my clinical mindset was more emotional when making decisions. After a while, the work, particularly seeing and hearing the stories of the abuse from the children was too triggering, so I asked for a transfer to the adult outpatient clinic. Sadly, the reality of abuse continued, and the stress of the job made me decide I needed to leave for the sake of my well-being.