Later Mom Features
RELATIONSHIP STATUS: In a relationship (but not married)
CHILD’S NAME/AGE: Sadie, aged 16 months
I’m a writer and documentary filmmaker. Occasionally I delve into radio as well. Visit www.naomigryn.com.
What was your road to parenthood like? I’d always assumed that I would have children, but a wild streak sent me searching first for other adventures. Aged 33, I was thrown off course by a car accident and spent the rest of my 30s recovering from post traumatic stress disorder. I met Pete when I was 42 and he was 34. My 40s were all about trying to get pregnant, and recovering from the disappointment of two miscarriages and four failed IVF attempts. On our fifth and final roll of the dice, I had two last frozen embryos implanted, with little hope that it would work and bingo, we got Sadie!
What do you see as the positives and challenges of having a child in your 50s? + I’ll never have to worry whether having a child has stopped me from having a more glorious career. - Even though I had an easy pregnancy, various maternity services seemed stressed out about it because of my age.
Has anything about being a mother surprised you? What do you love the most about it?
Nobody tells you how much fun it is.
Also, I had no idea that other people try to interfere so much, especially about routines. Strangers approach me in the street to complain about my baby’s clothing. People seem particularly challenged about her not wearing a hat. Unfortunately, she hates wearing hats and gloves, and immediately pulls them off.
My home has been overrun by cheap and brightly colored plastic toys, my iPhone has been confiscated by Sadie, and I haven’t had more than four consecutive hours’ sleep for 15 months, and yet I feel great.
What do I love the most? The intensity of my love for Sadie. Watching her personality erupt (she’s a living sunbeam with a predilection for melodrama). Waking up in the morning – every morning – and discovering that she’s still here, it wasn’t just a dream.