Later Mom Features
I’m a professional actress/ comedian/ writer/ voice artist. I do live comedy, TV, film and voice work. I’m currently on tour with my shows Suddenly Mommy and Spank! The Fifty Shades Parody. I look forward to having a sitcom so I don’t have to travel so much. Visit www.annemariescheffler.com.
What was your road to parenthood like? It almost didn’t happen. I was already in my mid thirties. My siblings were all married, owned houses, and were starting to have their babies. I was resigned to being the black sheep of the family: the crazy actress auntie who would never settle down. Then I met a single dad, and I fell in love with his normalcy, his being a father, his lovely daughter, and I thought: great! I’ll get a bonus child and a husband who’s already been trained by someone else! We had two beautiful boys right away. Now we are divorced, but I am so grateful to be a mom. And my ex-husband is with the kids when I am on tour.
Is there one project in your career thus far that you are most proud of, and why? I’m so proud of Not Getting It, my one hour comedy special. I wrote and starred in it. I wrote and performed it at The Second City in Toronto where I was part of the cast there. The Comedy Network saw a video tape of it and gave me the TV special. I was just saying my truth in a funny way. And it spoke to a lot of women: how come I was “not getting” married, “not getting” laid, “not getting it”? How can you be at your sexual peak and also wanting to get married at the same time? I’m super proud of Suddenly Mommy too. It’s also about wanting two opposing things at the same time: wanting a family but still wanting your career.
How does being a mom influence your work? What do your children think of all that you do? If I weren’t a mom, I wouldn’t be so good at what I do. You can only talk about relationships and dating for so long. Having the insight of life as a mom touches a lot more people. Also there’s an unfairness in our society about how moms are expected to sacrifice their lives and their personal goals for the family. This needs to be overhauled. Why can’t I be successful, the one with the career and still be a good mom? So being a mom gives me a cause to rally for in my work. My kids are proud of me, in a low key way. When they were younger, I’ve had my sons say “You’re not Anne Marie Scheffler! You’re Mommy!” but the also said “You’re not Mommy! You’re Anne Marie Scheffler!” so I know they understand I am an actor with a public job. And they get benefits from it too which they like. They enjoy having the run of the back stage and playing on the theatre stage. Also they get to go to TV tapings and parties, and they get swag and candy sometimes. Plus they are often invited to be in things with me: Jakey filmed a commercial with me. He was happy when the cheque arrived.