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NAME: Kuwana Haulsey
RELATIONSHIP STATUS: Married
RESIDENCE: Los Angeles, CA
CHILDREN’S NAMES/AGES: Kingston James, 4, and Jackson Chase 7 months
I’m a writer. I started off as an actress, but I kept gravitating back to the written word. I’ve always been a writer, for as long as I can remember. My 25-year-old nephew is quick to point out that I’m the only person he knows (who is not yet drawing a social security check) who will admit to having written on a typewriter. He can’t understand how that’s possible, since you can’t even log on to the Internet from a typewriter. Yet, somehow I managed.
I started out writing novels. My first two books were “The Red Moon” and “Angel of Harlem.” Currently, I do a lot of freelance writing and editing. My latest book is a memoir called, “Everything I Need to Know, I Learned From My Six Month Old: Awakening to Unconditional Self Love in Motherhood.”
I write what’s on my heart, and these days my children are on my heart. How they view the world fascinates me. I see myself anew through their eyes everyday. It’s an incredible journey so far.
People can find me at www.KuwanaHaulsey.com.
What do your children think of your work? What led you to write your book, and what is the message you want readers to take away from it? At this point, my son Kingston mostly thinks my work is a distraction from the real important things, like taking him to the pool and the train park. He doesn’t care that he was the catalyst for the new book. How many four-year-olds can say that they’ve had an entire book inspired by them? Kingston is not impressed. He routinely comes over to me and says, “Mommy are you tired? You look tired. I think you’re done with this now. You need to have a play date.” Meanwhile, he’s patting my cheek with one hand and quietly closing my laptop with the other. The baby is seven-months-old at this writing and too young to have an opinion about my writing.
While neither of my sons is very interested in what I do yet, I find myself writing to them, and for them. I want them to know how much their presence has impacted the world already. “Everything I Know” transpired for that reason. I also wrote the book because after becoming a mother, I noticed how many people in the media seemed to be talking about all the negatives associated with motherhood, how hard and unrewarding it can be. That was not my experience at all. Motherhood is hard, yes, but it has also been the catalyst for the greatest growth and inspiration of my life. I wanted to engage with the people who were having that conversation.
One of the insights that I hope readers can take away from the book is the idea that we are all born perfect, whole and complete and, contrary to what our experiences might have us believe, we remain that way. Fundamentally, at the core of our being, we lack nothing. Life offers us the opportunity to learn to love the perfection of our imperfection. We can choose to remember and reveal the truth of who we are on a day-by-day, even moment-by-moment basis.
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