Later Mom Features
RESIDENCE: Northern California
CHILD: A Son, Age 4
Rachel Lehmann-Haupt is one of America’s premier experts on the future of family life, career timing, and the influence of science and technology on fertility and pregnancy, and is widely credited with coining the phrase ‘DIY Mom.’ An in-demand speaker and journalist, her writing appears regularly in the New York Times Magazine, Vogue, O, Glamour, Wired, Self, and more. She graduated with distinction in English literature from Kenyon College, and has a Masters in Journalism from the Graduate School of Journalism at the University of California, Berkeley (where she apprenticed under Clay Felker, the founder of New York magazine). Visit: http://www.lehmannhaupt.com/
What was your road to parenthood like? I decided to get pregnant as a single mom by choice at 40. I was lucky, it didn’t take me very many tries to get pregnant. I tell the story of journey in my memoir, In Her Own Sweet Time: Egg Freezing and the New Frontiers of Family.
What led to your decision to free your eggs? I froze them when I was 37 after a break-up with Mr. Wrong. It helped me feel calmer about my future.
How does being a mom influence your work? I’m more committed and passionate about my work than ever. I’ve also become more efficient with my time. Becoming a mom has opened up mine with new networks of friends and opportunities.
What was your motivation to write your book? Most of us are getting married and having children after we get our degrees and are on more solid ground professionally. Instead of settling down, we’re spending a big chunk of our 20s and 30s lives living on our own, traveling, hooking up, or trying on different kind of relationships to see which one best fits us. Many of us are not getting married at all. The challenge that comes with this new era of independence is that many are also wrestling with our ambiguities and desires around having children while backed up against the inevitable tick-tock of our biological clocks. At the same that we’re postponing marriage, the age of first-time motherhood and fatherhood is naturally rising, especially in cities. I wanted to offer women a new road map to help them make better choices.
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