Later Mom Features
CHILDREN’S NAMES/AGE: Liam/7, Owen/5
RELATIONSHIP STATUS: Married
I am the Editor-in-Chief of a fashion, beauty and lifestyle site for women over 35 who refuse to age without a fight called FountainOf30.com.
What was your road to parenthood like? My road to motherhood was miles long. My husband and I started trying from the start of our marriage. I was 40, and he was a few years older. I had been on birth control since my teens (to regulate horrible periods) and thought once I was off the pill (which I went off a few months before the wedding), I would get pregnant quickly. That was not to be. We knew time was not on our side, so we went to a fertility clinic on the Upper East Side after six months of marriage and tried IUI four times before we had to turn to IVF. Luckily our insurance covered about three rounds, but there were a lot of out of pocket expenses too. After testing, I learned my eggs were old and not of great quality. Even though I had quite a few fertilized eggs placed back inside of me, the first two rounds did not work. We were crushed. IVF is tough stuff too, but we soldiered on. We spoke to our doctor before the third round and asked if we should go elsewhere or what else we needed to do because this was our last shot. He suggested acupuncture. Some of his clients had success combining fertility acupuncture with IVF. Even though they had one on staff, I had the name of a highly recommended fertility acupuncturist in my back pocket. I was given his name by more than one woman who had success with him and there had been articles written about him so I knew Dr. Wu was my guy. (I have paid it forward and have referred many women in NYC having problems conceiving to him).
So with Dr. Wu’s help and working with my IVF protocol, I produced 20 eggs! I was shocked. And, this time the pregnancy took! In fact, apparently I was originally pregnant with twins but one absorbed. Yet I had a beautiful, perfect, healthy baby boy at the age of 42.
I wanted to try for another one, this time using only acupuncture, but my husband and I ultimately agreed we should be happy with our one child. Especially at our ages. So when I found out I was pregnant at 43 with absolutely no help, you could have blown me over with a feather. Our second son Owen arrived when I was 44. My boys are 22 months apart.
How does being a mom influence your work? I consider myself a full-time mom first, so the business comes second. It’s very important for me to be a hands-on mom since I waited so long to become a mother, and I wanted to experience everything. It’s the hardest but most rewarding job I have ever had. As my children age and spend more time at school, I spend more time on my business. I make sure I am home when my kids get off the bus and help them with homework, cook dinner and get them to bed and then I work some more. However, I do go to events in the evenings occasionally, and for that, I have a sitter I trust completely (I also have a backup one). As the kids get older and need me less, I will probably be more involved in my site and start traveling more, but my kids always come first. My husband works like a dog as a corporate real estate lawyer, so I can’t rely on him to help much with the kids except on the weekends.
I probably could have become a mommy blogger and more of a family travel writer, but my passion really lies with fashion and beauty. Besides, my husband was very adamant that I don’t photograph or involve our kids too much in my work. He has lightened up on that a bit when it comes to travel, so I am working to do more family travel writing now.