Later Mom Features
AGE: Buying firming creams at Saks
RELATIONSHIP STATUS: Dog Lover
RESIDENCE: Santa Monica, CA
CHILD’S NAME/AGE: Jake/25
Stand up comedian and writer on Roseanne, Mad About You and Emmy Award-winning head-writer and producer of Rugrats. Author and star of “Not That Jewish,” currently running Off Broadway.
What was your road to parenthood like? After a failed marriage in my 20’s, I spent almost all of my 30’s with a man I truly believed was the love of my life. It kills me because I believe it really could have worked if only he’d been… an entirely different person. Although finding great success in my career as a stand up, it had never occurred to me that I wouldn’t SOME day have that husband, be raising those kids. But finding myself without a man, and 41 in LOS ANGELES, it became a chilling possibility. I decided I would have my baby, then find our man.
What led to your decision to adopt? A year of fertility treatments and rendezvous with six-foot, green-eyed, musical and athletic sperm sample 142 were deemed “unsuccessful.” I disagree. Because it led a good friend to ask, “Do you want to be pregnant or be a mother?” That led me to adoption.
How does being a single mom influence your work? Well, first, it gave me great material for my act. “I was fixed up with a guy who didn’t have kids. ‘You’re my first single mother. How does it work?’ ‘ Well, I list every chore, divide them in half… and do them all.”
For the first few years, I took Jake with me on the road. It was great. We were never apart. I was nurturer and breadwinner. A stay-at-hotel Mom! And I had all the time in the world to teach him to be a great guy. “All women are goddesses, yes they are. The very BEST women have a little extra fat right here on their thighs, yes they do. What’s a man’s favorite word? Commitment, yes it is.”
But when he got older and it was time for pre-school, I knew I had to find a way to make money being funny that would work for both of us. My agent got me a meeting with Klasky-Csupo, a great animation studio. Next thing I knew, I was a writer on RUGRATS, the #1 kid show in the country AND my son’s favorite. It was perfect. I was living with a three-year-old and getting paid well to think like one. And to his friends, I was a rock star!