Cory KahaneyProfession: Comedian, Playwright, Teacher
Web Site(s): CoryKahaney.com
Marital Status: Married
Residence: New York City
Children: Rufus, age 5; Ariel, age 25
Q: Why did you decide to become a mom later in life? What factors precipitated this decision (or dictated it)?
A: You know it's not my nature to be sappy but I did it for love. My husband had never had children in his first marriage (we were both divorced when we met). Now when I say I did it for love, we're talking L-O-V-E, I mean you need to know as a parent I was done - not almost done - not in the end zone, I had crossed the finish line. I had raised a teenage girl on my own, and she wasn't pregnant, on drugs or in jail - no - she was out the door, and off to college! That's when he suggested that we, meaning I, have another baby.
Full disclosure, my husband had been a wonderful stepfather to my very challenging, rebellious, gangsta wannabe kid and it's likely he is the reason she actually made it through high school and was accepted to a university - so ipso facto - he was awarded one round in the uterus, if nature permitted. As it turned out I took out the goalie, he shoots - he scores, and we have a son!Q: What do you love about your career? What is most challenging about your work? How long are you doing it? Where do you see yourself heading?
A: I have been a comic for 17 years. I also write and produce theater pieces. I had an Off-Broadway show that ran for 6 months called the J.A.P. show that paid tribute to all the Jewish Female Stand up comics who broke open the field for women. Because I have a little one at home, I can't travel too much so I teach Stand Up to beginner comics with the Manhattan Comedy School which operates out of the Comix, a comedy Club in downtown NYC. What is most challenging about juggling the comedy and the kid having to weigh each job against being away from him and in this economy it's hard to turn stuff down when you don't know when the next pay day will be. I don't know where I am heading, because I am pretty much where I always wanted to be, I mean I make my living by making people laugh, I live in a city I love, my kids are healthy, I actually like the person I am married to, and I have some nice friends, what more do you need?Q: What have you experienced through motherhood that has also helped you in your work or personal life?
A: My daughter was pretty much my act for a number of years, so I owe her everything. To be fair being a single mother gave me much more of an edge and I felt obligated to prove to my daughter that just because you get divorced you don't shelve your dreams. Kids in general widen your view on the world which comics need, otherwise all we'd talk about was facebook and masterbation!Q: What is a typical day for you like, managing both work and home life? Do you do any work from home? If so, how do you find that? Have you worked more or less since you became a mom? Do you travel a lot, and do you take your family? What do your children think of your work?
A: I work from home all day trolling for work and then at night I go out and do my dog and pony show.Q: How do you think being a later in life mom has affected your experiences as a parent (share both good & not so good)? Has anything about being a mom surprised you? What do you most try to teach your children? What influence, if any, has your own mom had in your life and in your parenting?
A: As one who has been both a young mom and an old mom I can say young is better for the sleep deprivation but old is better because you can afford a nanny.
What is surprising about being a mom is how much your children copy you, like seeing my son pick his nose or my daughter able to recite her credit card number over the phone without even opening her purse.
My mother has an entirely different recollection of my childhood than I do, but I will say, because of my mother, my children are terrified of touching the guest towels.
Q: Where do you or did you turn for support as a mom? How important do you think it is to connect with mom peers? Do you consider yourself a role model for other later moms or aspiring later moms?
A: I think older moms are cooler and easier to make friends with than younger moms. I think younger moms are often insecure and they are afraid of being caught making a mistake. And while it's true older moms obsess about everything because they have waited so long to have kids, they mainly obsess with other moms. If you have advice and hand sanitizer you can make friends with an older mom.Q: What words of wisdom would you most like to share with others contemplating becoming a mom later in life?
A: Sleep now while you can. And be prepared to poach babysitters from unsuspecting neighbors.Q: When you became a mom, did your own mother or mother figure share any particular sentiments or advice that really resonated? Or do you recall anything from your own upbringing that really stuck with you and you’d like to pass on to your children or other moms?
A: Send thank you notes and don't alienate your siblings. Aunts and Uncles can keep you honest and save your ass!
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