Blog for Moms Over 35


Our group for older moms over 35 parenting later in life blog features moms and experts sharing.  We share about living life fully over age 35, and write not just about parenting experiences, but life, growth, aging, etc.

Given Robin’s personal passion for sharing cool finds, travel destinations, unique attractions and theatre going, she writes periodic reviews of products, services, trips, Broadway and Off Broadway shows and other forms of entertainment, attractions and leisure pursuits….whether for kids, moms or couples.

If you’d like to submit a topic, product, destination, event, show or attraction for consideration, write robin@motherhoodlater.com.  Happy to hear from you!

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“Later Mom Goes Later Teacher; Gets dissed” by Pamela Francis


Saturday
September 23, 2017

When I signed on to be the 4th Grade Afterschool teacher at an urban elementary school in Los Angeles, in addition to my job as the 5th Grade Teaching Partner at same school, I had visions of holding sway over a roomful of –

I stop here because I realize, slowly, that I don’t know what my vision was when I said I’d take this gig. While “visions of sugar-checks danced in her head” might readily apply, I was more talking about what my vision may have been for the classroom…
and the kids…
and the paper…
and the glue…
and the scissors…
and the scraps…
and the…

I know that I intended to bring Personal Touch Creations Studio to the afterschool program as its Enrichment Activity, and that PTC Studio was my Therapeutic Spiritual Arts & Crafts Social Hangout for People of All Ages Who Get Really Zen’d Out When They Make Stuff By Hand Preferably While Listening to Some Really Cool Music …

…but beyond that… I had to really go back and remember how I saw this thing playing out in a take-no-prisoners charter school in South Central L.A., as opposed to the super genteel, Post … Continue reading..



“ONE NIGHT ONLY” Show/Date Night by Andrea Santo Felcone


Thursday
September 21, 2017

It’s “date night” and the stakes are high. You’ve gone through the trouble to arrange babysitting, made yourself up, and now you want a special night on the town with your special someone. Ah, but what to do? This past Saturday, my husband and I spent our date night thoroughly enjoying “ONE NIGHT ONLY (running as long as we can)”–the new show from Monica Bill Barnes & Company.

One Night Only

I had done my homework, and from what I’d read about the performers of this unique contemporary dance group, Monica Bill Barnes & Company sounded insanely interesting. Long-time creative partners, Monica Bill Barnes and Anna Bass are perhaps best known for The Museum Workout–a choreographed workout/museum tour through the hallowed halls of The Met. (I know I used the word “workout,” but these women are seriously FUN, as evidenced by their Museum Workout wardrobe of sequin dresses and sneakers to accompany their sweat.) So, although we had no idea what to expect from “ONE NIGHT ONLY”–in the interest of full disclosure–I was already predisposed to like Barnes and Bass from the start.

We arrived at the WP Theater (Women’s Project Theater) a little early and were delighted by the warmth and … Continue reading..



Before There Was Google by Andrea Santo Felcone


Friday
September 15, 2017

Before there was Google, there was Mom diving into encyclopedias to research every detail of the Statue of Liberty. She had promised our local PTA she would create a replica of this famous statue as the centerpiece for my 8th grade dance. Mom remained undaunted when they decided they needed a life-sized (well, human-sized) replica, in fact. A native New Yorker and a natural creative talent, Mom would seem a likely choice for this task. Ironically though, and like many other native New Yorkers, Mom had never seen the Statue of Liberty in person. This was pre-internet, so trips were planned to the library and PTA committee discussions followed. Mom was careful to recreate every detail–for the standards of that exacting PTA—a suburban PTA determined to prove they could pull off a legitimate “New York, New York”-themed dance. (Which, in fact, they did—mainly due to the showstopper Mom created.)

Mom’s statue was housed temporarily in our garage–before and after the dance–welcoming our car into its oil-stained space—“Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to breathe free,” wasn’t a far cry from the truth, as our drained family slid out of the Buick after a day’s outing … Continue reading..



Trouble by Elizabeth Dodson


Wednesday
September 13, 2017

Before having a baby, I read articles with titles like “How a Baby Ruined My Marriage” or “Marriage Survival Tips Post-Baby”.  I knew having a baby would be challenging and stressful, but I figured we had already been through so much as a couple, and we were always able to work through things,  We both had such a strong desire to grow and develop as individuals that we would find our way through challenges.  I felt like knowing it was going to be hard made me prepared; it was all going to be okay.

When I gave birth, I was on such a natural high that I felt completely in love with everyone and everything.  Life was beautiful.  My fiancé, Nic, was amazing.  I had just had the most awesome experience of a lifetime. I was holding the most precious human in the world, and life couldn’t get better.  Nothing could upset me or anger me.  It was a little irritating that Nic watched football and did whatever he was up to on his iPhone right up until just a few moments before I finished nursing Hunter, when he suddenly fell asleep.  It was slightly annoying that he washed my … Continue reading..



Guest Post: A Back-to-School Success Plan for Future-Focused Parents by Katherine Ludwig


Monday
September 11, 2017

For many families, going back to school means an end to summer slack and a return to tighter schedules, homework haranguing, high achievement expectations, and much less free time.

If you’re like most parents, you may already be gearing up for serious lectures about grades, study habits, college readiness, and that running rhetorical question: Do you want to end up flipping burgers for the rest of your life? Or maybe if your kid is already highly driven, you’re getting ready to assist in every possible way—financial and otherwise—to assure his highest achievement, whether it’s hiring tutors or running him around to a litany of extracurricular activities, and yourself ragged in the process.

In either case, you may think you’re paving the way for your kid’s future success, but you’re actually not. In fact, parents who are overly focused on the traditional markers of school success—academic excellence and college-application-padding at the expense of everything else—are actually doing kids a disservice.

Also, burger flipping literally won’t be an option for many people in the very near future thanks to advances in cheap robotics. By the time today’s young people enter college or the workforce, the nature of work will be radically different … Continue reading..



Mom Theatre Blogger: HELLO, DOLLY!: Review by Jane Waldman


Wednesday
September 6, 2017

Not many actresses would agree to share the role of Dolly Levi with Tony Award winner Bette Midler, who is dazzling Broadway audiences in the latest revival of  HELLO, DOLLY!  But two-time Tony Award winner, Donna Murphy, has proven that she is more than up to the challenge.  Murphy alternates with Midler on Tuesday nights and is filling in for her during Midler’s planned vacations.  If you were concerned that getting tickets on a Tuesday meant you would not experience as good a performance as Midler’s, never fear.  Murphy, in the role of a lifetime, does not disappoint.

Donna Murphy has the audience eating out of the palm of her hand from her surprise entrance in the opening number, “Call On Dolly,” until the final curtain call. She delivers an exuberant performance throughout that is contagious to both the excellent supporting cast and her gleeful audiences.  In her emotional, show stopping number “Before the Parade Passes By,” Murphy expresses her fear of returning to society after the death of her husband, Ephraim. This is an especially emotional scene for Murphy, who recently lost her husband, actor Shawn Eliott to cancer.

David Hyde Pierce, who audiences know best as Niles Crane … Continue reading..



Guest Post: A Silent Rebuke by Sandra Butler, co-author with Nan Gefen, It Never Ends: Mothering Middle-Aged Daughters


Wednesday
August 30, 2017

Whenever my mother came to visit during the early years of my own mothering, I allowed my two young daughters to make messes. I encouraged them to express both their disagreements and their often disagreeable thoughts. Raising daughters who knew how they felt and had the confidence to speak up for what they thought was right and fair was a value I held, one emerging from my own longing and inability as a child to express my feelings and, as my grandmother would have put it, “stick up for myself.” My mother’s intention was to raise children who were well behaved and successful. Perhaps that was her way of communicating to her immigrant mother that she was living the American dream of white upwardly mobile motherhood of the l940’s and 50’s. She had a well scrubbed carefully furnished house. Obedient children. Her own car. All markers of American success.

Now I understand that much of my own behavior in those long ago years were designed to show my mother how she should have mothered me, even though I didn’t know it then. Unlike her rule-bound and orderly expectations, I was playful and free with my daughters. I wanted her to … Continue reading..



Goal Setting for a Child with ADHD by Dr. Sarah Cheyette, MD (Book Excerpt)


Monday
August 28, 2017

*Adapted from ADHD & The Focused Mind © 2016 by Sarah Cheyette, MD, Peter Johnson, and Ben Cheyette, MD, PhD. Square One Publishers, Inc. Used by permission.


STRATEGY #5: DITCH THE GOAL OR CHANGE THE PLAN

Failing to achieve a goal that your child had previously set is also an opportunity for him to reevaluate whether or not it’s the right goal. It’s important to teach your child to use “flexible thinking.” Sometimes the goal—or the plan to achieve the goal—does need to be adjusted if it is not working out. Although we certainly don’t recommend “giving up”(or “choosing not to play”) as a general approach to challenges, it is important to balance persistence in the face of a setback with a thoughtful evaluation of what went wrong, and consideration of whether the goal is still the right goal and worth going for again. Taking a breather, or trying something else for a while, makes sense sometimes.

Sometimes the wrong goal was set to begin with. The initial goal may have been too ambitious—e.g., saying “I want to play basketball as well as Kobe Bryant” or “I will only be satisfied with 100 percent on the test” instead of … Continue reading..