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Sold Out By Seth


Sunday
November 11, 2007

From the mouths of babes…..they say. You’ve probably heard the expression. Well….Seth “sold me out” in school!

We attended a parent-teacher conference this week, and thankfully, got glowing reviews about Seth. His teacher is a delight, and she said he was as well. We talked about his behavior in class, play skills, listening, best buddy, etc….and it was all good.

The teacher made one somewhat surprising comment. She asked if there is anything different going on at home because Seth has said in school that he “misses his mom.” He even went so far as to ask his teacher if she misses her mom? This caught me offguard, and I couldn’t think of any particular reason he might say that. Then, the teacher clarified by saying that many of the children say that when they’re away from home. So, that made me feel better.

Next we got on the subject of some of the activities that Seth and I do together after school. I said he takes a music class, watches some tv, plays with his trucks & trains, and I try to get him to do arts and crafts projects, if we’re not going somewhere, like food shopping or … Continue reading..



To Donate or Not to Donate


Sunday
November 4, 2007

When Seth was a baby, he and I attended a Mommy & Me program at a school in Great Neck called Open Door. We did it for two years, and it was a really positive experience. I can still think back to those days, when I carried him into the classroom in his convertible Graco carseat/carrier. I was a new mom with so many doubts, questions, etc.

Fast forward….Seth is now 4.5, and Open Door is holding a fundraising sale. I got an email requesting donations. Anything from costume jewelry to new clothing, to children’s books, household items, and toys…..in good condition.

We’ve been storing all of Seth’s old clothes, toys, baby supplies, and even his crib, in our basement, since his birth. We recently gave away some of the clothes to friends of Marc (my husband) with a young son. But, I find it challenging to part with things because there is such sentiment behind every article of clothing, stuffed animal, musical mobile, etc.

Yesterday, however, the spirit moved me, and I spent time going through boxes in the basement, and came up with a care package of books and baby toys for the Open Door sale. Unfortunately, I … Continue reading..



Trick or Treat


Sunday
October 28, 2007

Halloween is almost here, and Seth has been totally psyched for weeks now. What’s not to like? Free candy…..and lots of it. Plus, this year, he’s going to be a Power Ranger. The Red one, to be exact. I must admit I don’t know the difference between all the Rangers, but to an ardent fan like Seth, being the Red one was a distinct choice. We actually wound up getting a hand-me-down costume from a friend whose now older son was a Power Ranger fan big time, especially during their hey day.

Seth asked me what I was going to be for Halloween. Since we’re not going to a party, I don’t plan an elaborate dress up. When I walk him around the neighborhood and local stores, I will wear my jackolantern earrings, to get into the spirit of the occasion. They have a kids costume parade in our town annually, and it’s quite a sight to see the little ones marching up and down the main drag all decked out.

One of my “hidden” talents, I’ve discovered over the years, is the art work I am able to create on pumpkins. I draw on them with oil pastel crayons, … Continue reading..



My Mommy Briefcase


Saturday
October 27, 2007

I originally posted this on the Working Woman blog but thought it would be fun to have here as well!

When I was single, I used to have those embarrassing moments when I’d reach into my overstuffed purse for a pen during a client meeting and out comes a slew of tampons. Now that I’m a mommy, the fallout tends to be diapers and sippy cup. Not as embarrassing but still not so professional. I’ve been feeling like I need a Mommy Briefcase.

Okay, I’m using the term “Mommy Briefcase” loosely. I don’t know about you, but I’m not really one to carry a briefcase. I’m more into the “everything bag,” a canvas or nylon sack where I just toss everything into it. Not very professional. So I decided to find an attractive bag that I could carry to client meetings that didn’t look like a bag lady’s accessory.

I found a great compartmentalized bag from SkipHop that could also serve the dual purpose of professional looking purse and stand-in diaper bag so I wouldn’t have to carry my bag and a diaper bag whenever I had baby in tow.

The bag is great, however, I somehow manage to overstuff … Continue reading..



A Life of His Own


Friday
October 12, 2007

We went to an Open House at Seth’s pre-K last night, and I always find myself feeling very sentimental when I go to his school. It’s like I become that much more aware of the life that Seth has outside of me and his home. His new teacher spoke highly of him, and others in the school commented on how he proudly walks into the classroom wearing his favorite firetruck polo shirt. And, how he’s always smiling. And, how much he grew in height from last year….since he went to the same school.

He’s becoming his own little person, and I can see a greater level of maturity in him. He’s not a baby anymore (though he’ll always be my little guy), and he’s already made his first classmate friend. He came home with a note in his school bag recently from the teacher. It said that Seth has become friends with a boy named Nathan, and that perhaps we’d like to do a playdate after school. I was given the name/number of his mother. We spoke, and got the boys together. It was so cute to see them engage in their own dialogue, even as it relates to school…an … Continue reading..



Pushing Buttons


Saturday
October 6, 2007

I didn’t plan to blog on this subject, but I need to vent at the moment.

It is never a dull moment as a parent….both good ‘n bad.

This morning, Seth went out with Marc to do errands, and they returned while I was taking a shower. Next thing I know, Seth is on the floor of my bathroom playing with the sliding bathroom door, and managed to pull it partially off the hinges. I know he’s just four years old, but it gets frustrating living with a person, despite their young age, who has no regard for things in their home.

I know he didn’t intentionally plan to break it, but the damage is done. And, Marc is as far from a handy man as you can get. So, what now? And, how much will this cost to fix?

I realize in the scheme of things, this incident is not a biggie, but it all adds up. Seth would surely not like it if I were to break his toys (not that I’d do that). Yet, this is not the first thing he’s wrecked in the house.

I think part of it is that I spend so much time … Continue reading..



To-be


Friday
October 5, 2007

My in-laws gave us a generous gift for the baby, with a card that said “for the baby-to-be.” It was refreshing to read it.

The stage that I am in has been investigated by anthropologists who coined it “liminality.” As humans move through major stages of life, many cultures (if not all) designate a period that is in-between stages, marked with a set of rituals (rite of passage). One obvious example is adulthood (often for males), and another, death. When a person enters this in-between stage, that person belongs to a transient stage, often isolated from society, and the normal social rules do not apply. To my knowledge, not much is studied about the phase that I am in: I am neither a mother nor a non-mother. I am pretty much removed from the normal social environment (since my maternity leave started), and I am definitely treated differently.

At 36 weeks, I feel that I am verging on the cross-over. I am called a “mom” from time to time, although it is clear that I am not one yet. I am a non-mom and a mom at the same time. What do you say, Dr. Schrodinger?… Continue reading..



The 4 Hour Work Day…Sucks


Wednesday
September 26, 2007

First, the good news: I’m feeling so much better both physically and mentally than a year ago or even 6 months ago, and I’m diving into my work with gusto. I really enjoy the creativity and the intellectual challenge. And I love the fact that I can work from home.

Now, the not so good news: I still only get 4 hours per weekday to get my work done. And I’m now doing an 8 hour day workload, at least that much, and it is spilling out over those 4 hours when the babysitter is here.

So now, I’m dealing with:

1. Frustration because I can never get the work done that I need to get done each day.

2. Stress because the work is piling up and seeming unmanageable when I know I’m totally capable of doing it – and want to do it – but can’t.

3. Guilt because I sneak onto my computer the rest of the afternoon when Noa wants to play or have me read to her, and all I want is for her to watch a bunch of videos to give me a few more minutes to work.

Extending the babysitter’s time here is … Continue reading..