Blog for Moms Over 35


Our group for older moms over 35 parenting later in life blog features moms and experts sharing.  We share about living life fully over age 35, and write not just about parenting experiences, but life, growth, aging, etc.

Given Robin’s personal passion for sharing cool finds, travel destinations, unique attractions and theatre going, she writes periodic reviews of products, services, trips, Broadway and Off Broadway shows and other forms of entertainment, attractions and leisure pursuits….whether for kids, moms or couples.

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Mom Meltdown


Thursday
February 19, 2009

I had a total mom meltdown yesterday.

I feel like I’m 48 going on 8.

My son had a playdate here. It was supposed to be at a friend’s house, but plans got changed last minute, and they wound up at our house. It was the second playdate with this particular friend, and I wanted to be a good host. This was a drop-off, and the mom was going to hang with me a bit when she came to pick her up after two hours.

I have to confess. Playdates here are often not fun for me. On one level, I love seeing kids playing happily and creatively. On another level, when it becomes a “playdate gone wild,” I ultimately crack. Not during the playdate, but afterwards, when I have to do battle with my son to do clean-up. That’s when “mommy maid” emerges and I get completely fed up. And, yesterday, I really lost it.

We are planning to gut our basement in the few months and redo the whole thing, complete with a play room area, etc. But, until then, our living room (we don’t have a den), has taken on a life of its own with Seth’s … Continue reading..



Valentine’s Day & A High School State of Mind


Saturday
February 14, 2009

It’s Valentine’s Day.

What do you have on tap?

My husband is working today….tax season….and then we have errands to run later.

So, it’s me and Seth hangin’ at the moment…and he’s being very good company today. Often he can get a bit naggy asking me incessantly, “what are we doing today?” But, today isn’t one of those days, thankfully.

What would I be doing to celebrate Valentines’ Day if I were single, I’ve been thinking? (Not that I wish I was.) Would I feel like I should have a date? (probably…knowing me) Would I feel like I should be going to a party and socialize? (probably…knowing me) Would I decide to get a massage? (probably not….though I should) I strongly believe that we should, as best we can, do what feels good.

I had lunch with a gal from high school yesterday who I haven’t seen in years. We’ve been loosely in touch via email, but getting together was nice. It was different in person. Email is not the same. A positive trip down memory lane. I think back on high school with fond memories.

Hard to believe it’s like 30 years later. And, interesting, how as women, we … Continue reading..



More Than One


Thursday
February 5, 2009

Seth was off from school yesterday, and he had a playdate with a girl in his kindergarten class.

It was our first time getting together with them. The kids played nicely, and I enjoyed getting to know the mom.

She was my kinda gal. Lots to talk about. Introspective. Holistic health-minded. Studying to be a life coach with an author I admire. It was a pleasant afternoon.

One thing that really struck me is that she has four children. I was in awe.

She said that last year she turned 40 and planned a getaway celebration with good friends, and how they had a blast. Her husband was very supportive of her trip.

She and her husband practice self care…they have both a yoga practitioner and masseuse come to their home regularly. I thought that was so admirable.

But, what I really wondered was what life is like with four children? They have a live-in nanny weekdays, but still……

I could only begin to imagine the dynamic of homework for four (though one is only 2.5), meals out, coordinating playdates, after school activities, etc.

I pondered what that felt like? And, the mom who seemed so industrious, how does she … Continue reading..



Guest Blog — by Rochelle Jewel Shapiro


Saturday
January 31, 2009

My father wanted a boy. Unfortunately, he had three daughters instead. When I, the third daughter, was born, he said, “Another girl!” He lost his voice for six weeks.

Maybe it was better than what he might have said if he could speak. They waited seven years to try again, because they thought that seven was the magic number that would change their chemistry and their luck so that they could finally produce a son. And it worked, probably coincidentally. But my mother was forty-two by then and in 1954, that was considered quite late for motherhood. But my oldest sister was sixteen. Rumors shot around the neighborhood that my brother wss really her illegitimate child. My big sister was mortified.

And my mother had her consequences as well.

“What a young grandmother,” people would say to her.
“No, I’m just an old mother,” she’d tell them sadly.
And then people would snicker crudely. “By your age you should know how not to get knocked up,” a man in a hardware store whom she didn’t even know said.

My mother would sit up in her grave and applaud if she knew how many women today are having children over forty … Continue reading..



Future Later Mom Empty Nester


Wednesday
January 28, 2009

I am so tired of this winter. Are you?

And, Seth’s school bus is stressing me out.

The bus aide gave me the evil eye the other day when we weren’t standing outside awaiting their arrival. It’s cold out there in the morning. Can’t we wait just inside our doorway, and Seth can scamper out when they arrive?

Today the bus was two hours late. There was a school opening delay due to the weather yet again.

I ask you….are we done with snow yet this season? I hate the ice and mess. Don’t like driving or walking on it. It’s just not my thing. A sno-bunny I’m not.

So, why do I live in a place like New York? Sometimes I wonder. Though, there’s a lot good to be said about it, but the weather wouldn’t be high on my list.

Seth said a funny thing the other day.

He announced how a little girl in his class wants to marry him, and he might want to marry her one day. Not now, of course. They’re 5. (though I often say he’s 5 going on 15) And, he went on to say that when he gets married, he’d like … Continue reading..



Kids Rock Band I Love


Wednesday
January 21, 2009

Wanted to give a shoutout to our favorite kids rock band that just released their first DVD shot in NY. We had attended the concert a while back where they filmed it. Was total fun!
They are Princess Katie & Racer Steve, and the DVD is called Princess Katie & Racer Steve Live! Revved Up & Ready to Rock!. You can check them out at http://www.princessracer.com/.
Their music is hip. Their shows are fun and engaging.
We just saw them in concert in NY at a local JCC, and had a great time. And, they will be touring, so keep an eye out for dates in a town near you.
Princess Katie & Racer Steve’s critically acclaimed albums, ‘Songs for the Coolest Kids,’ and ‘Fast & Feisty,’ offer contemporary takes on popular music sounds ranging from jazz and swing to neo-Latin and electric rock ‘n’ roll to rap, West Indian, folk, country, and 12-bar blues. Princess Katie & Racer Steve use cool music, hip lyrics and zany skits to bring home messages about cultural acceptance, winning, losing, sharing, bullying, making friends, kindness, fairness, sibling appreciation, world peace, and just plain having fun being a kid.
PS — If you’re … Continue reading..


A Sandwich Generation Weekend


Tuesday
January 20, 2009

I’ve blogged on this subject before. While I hate to be a broken record, I feel the need to share again.

My dad is 90, and my son is turning 6 next month.

It was a long, snowy weekend here in NY, since yesterday was a school holiday. My dad stayed with us since his aide went home, and he just returned to his house 1/2 hour ago via a car service dedicated to the elderly. I’m glad that he didn’t have to drive himself in the snow, even though he prides himself on being independent car-wise.

It was a tension-filled weekend for me, and I felt like I was snappy. I hate being that way, but I couldn’t help myself. I’m thrilled that my son and dad got to spend quality time (they sleep in the same room…my dad in a rollaway bed), but my dad did nothing but complain the whole weekend about how he feels.

His life has become a rollercoaster of making doctor rounds. At times it feels like he’s in search of a magic pill to relieve all his ailments.

I find myself telling him that as a 40 something mom, I don’t feel as … Continue reading..



New Year….New You?


Monday
January 5, 2009

How was your new year’s eve?

We chilled at home.

I’m been fighting this marathon cold and today, after being convinced by two friends, finally got myself to the ENT doctor. Turns out I need to be on antibiotic for five days. I’m so grateful I bit the bullet and went.

How often as moms do we treat ourselves as invincible? I somehow thought, as lingering as this cold has been, that it would ultimately go away. But, one of my friends reminded me that in a perfect world, that would be true, but sometimes we need a little help.

These words hit home for me.

We all need help at times, and there’s nothing wrong with asking for it or even paying for it. Do you allow yourself to ask for it? Whether it’s from a mate, friend, family member, stranger…etc.

There’s a lot of talk about practicing self care and how important it is. And, I totally agree. But, sometimes self care isn’t just about doing for ourselves. Part of that is giving ourselves permission to reach out. Seek out connections that have meaning to us. To hire poeple (if we can afford to) to help simplify our … Continue reading..