Blog for Moms Over 35

Our group for older moms over 35 parenting later in life blog features moms and experts sharing.  We share about living life fully over age 35, and write not just about parenting experiences, but life, growth, aging, etc.

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Trip Guilt

October 22, 2008

I am so conflicted.

I’m off tomorrow for a six day jaunt to Canyon Ranch in Tucson where I’m leading two workshops based on my book HOW TO MARRY A MENSCH.

I’m going by myself, which is a unique traveling experience for me. And, I feel like I’m racing the clock like a crazy person. Doing even more multi-tasking than I already do.

Aside from packing and preparing for my talks, I’m jumping ahead to projects that will arise when I return, trying to anticipate tasks so I can potentially kickstart them now. And, I’m planning dinners for Seth while I’m gone, his snacks for school, etc.

No wonder I couldn’t sleep last night, with all that is going through my head. I jumped up at 3AM to send myself an email on my Blackberry, so I’d get it at my computer this morning and not forget to do something.

Part of me finds the notion of the trip freeing. When was the last time I had an opportunity to really focus on myself, aside from lecturing to singles? As relaxed as I hope I’ll be once there, I’m doing a number on myself right now to pack all the … Continue reading..

Mommy Cliques

October 2, 2008

I was speaking with a mom friend the other day who commented on how she felt like she was back in high school, and I fully understood. Here we are, two “later” moms in our 40s, feeling like we’re 16 again, wanting to be liked. Holding on to old/existing/close friendships, yet yearning to connect with other moms in our local area for playdates, lunch, etc.

We’ve got many years experience on the work and personal front behind us, yet now we feel like we’re backpedaling in the mom friendship department.

What is that about? Has that happened to you?

Case in point….

I was at McDonald’s earlier this week with Seth. We are far from regulars there, but he was craving a Happy Meal toy and loves playing in their climbing maze.

We went there for lunch, and after eating, I parked myself on a bench in the outdoor area while Seth befriended some other children and ran around, having a great time. I had brought with me a supply of magazines and my Blackberry, so I could stay plugged in to emails (yes…I’m obsessed) and catch up on some reading.

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Trip Up Memory Lane

September 20, 2008

I took a trip down memory lane this week.

I tagged along with Marc on his business trip to Nashville. It was my first time there and I didn’t know what to expect.

We stayed at the gorgeous Gaylord Opryland Resort & Conference Center.

Marc was at the conference fulltime, so I was on my own for the most part.

Flying out we realized it was our first trip together, without Seth, since before becoming parents. Seth stayed home with our nanny. We didn’t want to take him out of Kindergarten, as he is new at the school and all is going well so far. We’d like to keep it that way and not disrupt his routime.

So, while we were away together, we were basically ships that pass in the night due to his meeting schedule.

That said, I passed the time doing stuff that would interest me more than him anyway. This included shopping, getting a massage, and listening to music.

I discovered a surprising, newfound appreciation for musical expression. I had always heard about Nashville and it’s music roots, but to experience it first hand is something I could not anticipate.

I went one evening to the … Continue reading..

A Sandwich Generation Day: Cycles of Life

September 3, 2008

I have blogged on this subject before, and at the risk of being redundant, I feel the need to share my experiences of yesterday.

I am calling it a true “Sandwich Generation” Day. And, I wonder if you can relate. I’d love your feedback and to hear your experiences if you’d like to share.

Like many, I’m sorry to see summer come to an end. We had such a blast at our community pool, and I will really miss it.

Not only do I find the change of season a bit challenging, but yesterday, and this whole week, for that matter, I find myself in a somewhat conflicted emotional state.

Seth started Kindergarten today, and I took him to meet his teacher and to see the classroom and classmates. It feels surreal that he has hit this stage of his education. He loved the school, and got particularly thrilled when he asked the teacher if they go on class trips. She said yes, and the first trip is to a firehouse. Well…she couldn’t have said anything better for Seth. Firehouses are his most favorite place in the world.

I am both excited for him and a little melancholy that he … Continue reading..


August 26, 2008

Wow….if I could have blogged during our vacation, it would have been such a great release, but I didn’t have my compter with me.

It was great to get away, and actually had a really amazing experience. I had the opportunity to meet former President Clinton and Hillary, and to personally give President Clinton a signed copy of my book HOW TO MARRY A MENSCH(decent person). Very cool and quite surreal. It occurred to me afterwards that I should have suggested they pass it on to Chelsea, but perhaps they’ll do so anyway.

Aside from this encounter, I celebrated my birthday by getting a facial and massage. As I get closer and closer to 50, it’s hard to believe just how fast the years go.

And, I saw a newfound maturity of sorts in Seth this trip. He discovered the power of autonomy and exerted himself in a way I’ve never seen him do at home.

We vacation at Mohonk Mountain House in New Paltz every summer with family members, and have been since Seth was a baby. So, I guess, having grown up there, he has such a level of comfort and familiarity, that he feels he owns the … Continue reading..


August 21, 2008

Published: August 19. 2008 09:06AM


By Cathy Stovell

I’m over 40. Everyone knows that but still people bombard me with the question: “When are you going to have children?” What I find even more surprising is that most of the people who ask me this are seniors. Maybe it has got something to do with knowing me as a child and not fully realising my age, because I thought surely in their day women my age were not still having babies.

But there is a trend of women starting their families later in life and while I was not able to get local statistics, women I spoke with said they felt it is also happening in Bermuda.

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Another lesson in humility

August 20, 2008

It was around noon, lunch-time for my baby daughter. I had just started to feed her in her high-chair when the doorbell rang: it was the UPS man. I opened the door, saw him coming towards the door with a huge box (of diapers), and went out to get the box from him.

The very moment the door closed behind me, I realized with horror that I was locked out. I started to panic, repeatedly stuttering to the UPS man, “I’m locked out. My baby is inside. I’m locked out. My baby is inside. I’m ….” The UPS man calmly asked me if I wanted to call anyone. I didn’t have my phone with me. He didn’t have a phone with him. Luckily, there were a couple of workers next door, and let me use their phone. I called 911 and explained the situation.

Then I thought, maybe this is not a call for 911. Maybe I should call the police. So I shared my thinking with the 911 operator:
“I don’t know, maybe this is not a call for 911. Maybe I should call the police….”
“Ma’am, this IS the police.”
“Just hang in there. I am connecting … Continue reading..

Career Choice: Motherhood Now or Later

August 15, 2008

Wake Up, Smell the Discrimination and Look Out for Your Career

Aug. 14, 2008

Maybe it’s just me, but sometimes it feels as if researchers are popping out press releases on motherhood and careers faster than women are actually birthing babies.

In July, researchers at the University of California, Berkeley, told us that Harvard grads who went on to get their MBAs became stay-at-home moms at a higher rate than grads who went on to become doctors or lawyers.

Earlier this month, Cornell University let us know that mothers were 90 percent more likely to ditch their careers if their husbands worked at least 60 hours a week but that, if the roles were reversed, the husbands would likely keep on working.

And just last week, Cambridge University informed us that in the U.S., the percentage of people in favor of moms working full time dropped to 38 percent in 2002, down from 51 percent in 1994. In other words, if you believe that “family life would not suffer” if a mom has a career, you’re in the minority.

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and note the mention of MLTS & Robin!

Then again, there’s always the concern … Continue reading..