Blog for Moms Over 35
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February 28, 2017
On a recent trip to New York City, traveling by train, my little one was getting agitated. He doesn’t like to be told what to do. The automated announcer advising “be careful when exiting the train” and “please mind the gap” at every station stop was driving him crazy. Finally, he yelled, “We know already!” as if the announcer could hear him. I had to laugh. I, too, had my frustrations about “the gap”. But, my frustrations were with people commenting on the gap in years between my two children.
Mind the Gap: Mind Your Manners:
It was difficult for me to have children. The wait for the firstborn seemed endless, but was nothing compared to the wait for the second. When our first child was about 2 years old, we were ready to expand our family. It took four years for that dream to materialize. I was surprised to learn that when you have your second child after a significant “gap” of time, most people assume this child was unplanned. At the time, I was shocked by the number of people who asked if my little bundle of joy was “an accident.”
However, the most notable “gap-minding” story I … Continue reading..
February 26, 2017
The Art of Self
I often express my love for my two children through berries. Strawberries are their favorite. On school mornings I wash and cut a ramekin’s worth for them as part of their breakfast.
I am cutting fewer berries these days. Three weeks ago we dropped my son off for his freshman year of college. I cut berries just for my daughter now. Fewer berries to cut, fewer berries to buy.
This milestone in life – the first child off to college – is foreseeable years in advance. Yet the transition you go through emotionally creeps up on you during the latter half of your child’s senior year in high school and becomes undeniable as you drive away without them on drop-off day.
But while my new reality at home has unsettled me, it has not rocked my world. I have my mother to thank for that.
My mother is an artist. She also taught art at the high school and junior high school level in Brooklyn before I was born. After I came along she switched to substitute teaching and continued after my sister was born as well.
We moved to New Jersey in time for me … Continue reading..
February 25, 2017
Since 2006, one of three boys has played middle or high school basketball and/or baseball — not to mention recreation teams in city leagues. Throughout those years, my husband and I definitely saw the good, the bad, and yes, sometimes unfortunately, the ugly. The sports took a huge time commitment from our sons and also from us. Alas, those years are now officially over. I’m both disappointed and relieved.
My youngest played on the high school JV baseball team last year, even though he sat on the bench a lot. It was a stressful season followed by a summer baseball season that was also stressful, so this year I actually suggested to my son that he not try out this year and instead enjoy more free time and more time to study. However, my son decided he wanted to try out anyway — but he didn’t make the team. I still feel that my son could have contributed to the team as well as some of the others that were chosen, and I hate that feeling a parent has when your child is being treated unfairly. But I have to admit that a big part of me was relieved that … Continue reading..
February 20, 2017
I was planning to write this blog prior to the inauguration, but then allowed myself to be taken away on the chaotic ride of our new president. All of a sudden, I was literally speechless (which is very unusual for verbal me). Tears formed in my eyes on a regular basis and my heart ached, as I tried to continue to live my life as “normal”. But there is nothing normal about what is going on today. And I’m not talking about politics. I am talking about basic human rights and decency. I’m specifically talking about how love trumps hate.
So I am back intact, and ready to discuss the special care we need to share with our children. The good news is that we have the right circumstances to discuss what is important, which is to love and accept one another, differences and all. The not-so-good news is that the new president of this great country is not practicing love and acceptance. And due to this discord, hate crimes have risen at an exponential rate (for more details, please go: https://www.splcenter.org/news/2017/02/15/hate-groups-increase-second-consecutive-year-trump-electrifies-radical-right). And due to this discord, people are coming together more than ever before, to support one another, differences … Continue reading..
February 14, 2017
So, I’ll admit, I was stumped. Every day I make my youngest son’s sandwich, wrap it in foil–send it off in his lunch bag. And every day, my six-year-old eats his sandwich, twists the foil into these odd shapes, and sends it back in his lunch bag. This went on for a bit of time, when it finally dawns on me (and the shapes got clearer) what the shapes actually are. They are HEARTS. And when I ask him about the foil hearts, he tells me that every day he finishes his sandwich and makes a foil heart for me. So, today, I’m sharing the foil hearts with you. Because like it or not, it’s Valentine’s Day–a day dedicated to hearts. But I think it’s more than that. I think my six-year-old has it right, it seems this world could use a little more love and compassion, and these foil hearts have started me thinking.
I’m thinking about the logistics of this: Picture if you will, an average elementary school lunchroom, where every Monday through Friday, a six-year-old boy sits at his little lunch table twisting a foil heart for his mother. No one told him to do this. Take … Continue reading..
February 13, 2017
On Friday, February 10, my husband and I enjoyed the pleasure of a date night spent at The New Victory Theater taking in the sights and sounds of a delightfully-unique juggling show–WATER ON MARS. In this show, The New Victory Theater is presenting its very first-ever all juggling show—but to say this is just juggling, is to underestimate the art, creativity, and humor of the performance.
In good form, I made sure to unwrap my lozenges before show time, intending not to disturb the concentration of the jugglers, once the show began. This concern seemed laughable when the show actually started. These three jugglers (“PLASTIC BOOM” as they are known collectively) Patrik Elmnert (SWE), Wes Peden (USA), and Tony Pezzo (USA) are award-winning jugglers—and easily proved they could (and would) juggle through any circumstance. Elmnert and Peden even hold the Guinness World Record for Most Club Passes Caught by a Duo Whilst Juggling (13 clubs and 26 catches). The show’s program indicates they once juggled while a man accidentally walked through their routine—and didn’t miss a beat.
Initially, my husband and I were intrigued by the “less is more” stage set-up. Against a sparse black backdrop, there were a … Continue reading..
February 11, 2017
On February 12th, an off-Broadway classic, the Gazillion Bubble Show, celebrated its 10th year of entertaining kids of all ages in New York City. Last week, my 9-year-old daughter and I were lucky enough to discover the magic of this unbubblievable show for ourselves, and we weren’t disappointed.
The performers of the show are all part of the Yang family, who have created a bubble dynasty founded by Fan Yang—the world’s foremost bubble master. The Yangs have developed their own bubble solution formulas which allow them to create the most amazing bubble creations. Our entertainer and artist for the show was Fan Yang’s son, Deni Yang, who has been performing since the age of 4, and whose infectious enthusiasm for the art of bubble making immediately won us—and the entire audience—over. Not only did Fan use his fingers as bubble wands, but he created bubbles inside of bubbles, colored bubbles, smoke filled bubbles, square bubbles, and even a bubble that engulfed 6 children from the audience all at the same time.
One of my favorite parts of the show occurred when Fan pulled a little girl from the audience onto the stage and told her (and the … Continue reading..
February 10, 2017
CLEAR EXPECTATIONS AND ROOM TO LEARN
Once your child is in middle and high school and those executive function skills have started to kick in, it’s time to remove your- self from your child’s homework duties. Around the beginning of middle school, when research shows that homework begins to have an academic benefit, homework takes on increasing academic relevance. Homework, when carefully planned and prepared, is not busywork. Quality homework shores up knowledge that has already been encoded, and pushes students to apply that knowledge to new contexts. This final aspect of learning, in which students create answers rather than merely recalling them, is called generative learning. Homework that promotes generative learning offers students opportunities to play with skills, exercise some trial and error, and create their own answers. While generative learning is vital to mastery, it is also hard. Generative learning does not come easily, and when this valuable and precious kind of learning is going on, expect to see some blood, sweat, and tears. It won’t look like elementary school homework, in which answers fit tidily in squares preprinted on math worksheets. Generative learning, when done right, should travel outside the lines, disregard boundaries of subject matter, … Continue reading..