Blog for Moms Over 35
Our group for older moms over 35 parenting later in life blog features moms and experts sharing. We share about living life fully over age 35, and write not just about parenting experiences, but life, growth, aging, etc.
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February 8, 2017
From THE IMPORTANCE OF BEING LITTLE by ERIKA CHRISTAKIS, to be published on February 7, 2017 by Penguin Books, an imprint of Penguin Publishing Group, a division of Penguin Random House LLC. Copyright © Erika Christakis, 2017.
Does parenting matter? Studies of identical twins raised apart seemed to put a damper on the idea that what we do for our children has much effect. Nonetheless, there is a lot of evidence that parents have a much bigger impact on their preschool-aged children than teachers do, and that pro- grams to support good parenting practices in vulnerable families pay off in the long run, especially in the early years. Some researchers estimate that as much as one third of the parenting gap we find between poor-quality and high-quality parenting could be closed by better support to families,27 which is at least equal to the fraction of the gap that could be closed by changes in preschools, as we saw earlier.
Too often, our perceptions and our policies treat children as if they exist in a vacuum. Political liberals are often loath to ask parents to take any responsibility for child-rearing choices because it appears to be a form … Continue reading..
February 7, 2017
I’ve been struggling with blogging. I’ve been struggling with mommying. I’ve been struggling with adulting.
I’ve been struggling with figuring out exactly what I’m struggling with.
And then last night, in the middle of a rare moment of peaceful sleep from my daughter, where I could have been sleeping comfortably tucked into my own contorted sleep position of choice- I read this article:
This is exactly what I’ve been struggling with! I’m struggling with my ideals not fitting into the society in which I live.
When I planned to become a mom, I never planned to be a “stay at home mom.” I didn’t want to lose myself. I thought I’d be bored staying at home with a baby/child! But once I held my baby in my arms my life changed, my view of the world changed. I realized leaving to work outside of the home was not what I wanted. I realized there is no dull moment in parenting. And I realized I would make every personal sacrifice necessary in order to be able to stay at home and stay with my daughter.
For several months, this decision was easy. I didn’t have any regrets, and I didn’t … Continue reading..
February 6, 2017
Sometimes it takes a new perspective on something to see it in a different light. Like, say, when every Halloween a guy living in your neighborhood gets on these gigantic wooden stilts and scares the pants off your kids–so much so, they can’t cross the street to trick-or-treat at the stilt-walker’s house. So, you avoid the stilt-walker. You continue on your way. But then, a year or so later, you find yourself enjoying an impromptu Halloween party at the stilt-walker’s house. How did this happen? You are now “BEHIND THE STILTS” and it is so entirely different than you thought it would be. Nothing scary. Actually, it’s pretty entertaining. As it turns out, the stilt-walker guy is the Dad of a new friend of your youngest, and his wife has invited you and your son to go trick-or-treating and then back inside for pizza. So, although I am not someone who has had the perspective of life on top of stilts, I can share that behind the stilts it’s all fun and games and food and warmth. It’s an entirely different experience than it was in front of the stilts—and it’s a pleasant surprise.
I’ll admit I initially thought the … Continue reading..
February 4, 2017
New York in January is a place that many, other than tourists, want to escape, once the ball has dropped and new years excitement has waned.
But, for my 13 year old son and I, given the opportunity to squeeze in a quickie staycation, no matter the time of year, is something we never tire of.
Nothing beats the cold like sitting by a warm fireplace, and Refinery Hotel offered that and more during our recent stay, and it was a real treat. Not to mention that we were greeted in our room with decadent treats….luscious cupcakes from the famed Magnolia Bakery.
We were in town to attend BroadwayCon, the second annual convention devoted to theatre, and I was looking for a hotel convenient to Javits Center that was just a quick Uber ride away.
Located in the heart of the Fashion District, just blocks from Macy’s Herald Square, Bryant Park, the Theater District, Times Square, and the Empire State Building, Refinery Hotel, in the building that was once an early-20th century millinery, features 197 custom-furnished rooms, of varying sizes, spanning 12 floors, plus Winnie’s, a lively, classy lobby jazz bar (which on the Friday night … Continue reading..
January 30, 2017
To know them is to love them. And if you’re a kid aged 8 and under, in all likelihood, you’ve sampled the fun.
The Elephant and Piggie books by Mo Willems are simple and sweet. My son was hooked on them for many years. I introduced him to Willems’ pigeon books (i.e. Don’t Let the Pigeon Drive the Bus to name just one) when he was a baby. We read them over and over and to this day they make us laugh. Elephant and Piggie are a little different. They use the same type of quick humor but they take us to a place where friendship is the very essence of existence. It’s a message that children really understand because there’s nothing like your childhood buddies.
The show Elephant & Piggie’s “We are in a Play!” (for ages 4-7) at The New Victory Theater in New York City, captures the delightful relationship between the somewhat neurotic pachyderm and his optimistic porker pal in bold and brilliant style…as it should, since the show (script and song lyrics) is also written by none other than…Mo Willems.
If you’re a fan of the Elephant and Piggie books, you will recognized the stories … Continue reading..
January 30, 2017
New Year’s Resolution #137 – Finish kid’s scrapbook. I started “scraping” back in early 2000s when I moved to Central Illinois and realized one had to find indoor activities to stay sane during the winter months. It was a way to showcase my creativity, hoping some day to share my current life with my future children.
Then the children came. I had very good intentions of making each of my boys a beautiful scrapbook but found that I had to focus on keeping them alive. Activities like cooking became a priority. Scrapbooking fell to negative 5 on the importance scale.
Every year, I have a goal to finish those scrapbooks. Every year, I fall further behind.
My friends have suggested digital scrapbooking. I tried using these electronic-make-your-own-scrapbook services and quickly became frustrated. The systems were not user-friendly and would often crash, leaving me with 30 minutes of wasted time and nothing to show for. Not to mention, I had just spent 8 hours in the office looking at a screen, the last thing I wanted to do with my limited free time was slave away over a hot PC.
Enter Chatbooks, which promises to give me the tactical function of … Continue reading..
January 24, 2017
A Measured Level of Fear in Establishing Power
(Excerpt from In-Charge Parenting: In a P.C. Nation)
Parents who do not take the time to teach their children how to become independently responsible are robbing the child of the tools necessary for success. Waiting for one’s child to develop skills, habits, and responsibilities on his own in the short run may appear to display concern, but in reality, it is a shortsighted means of appeasement and pampering. A child needs parents to be in charge to establish the family environment in such a way as to give the child the training needed to face the world head-on without the parents. Imagine a baby bird not prepared by the mother attempting to take off from a perch high up in a tree. This is not a pretty sight, nor is a child without training leaving the family. Either extreme of having too much fear of one’s parent or having no fear of the parent leaves the child unprepared for life. A child who has to look over his shoulder in a fearful way means the child has suffered abuse. This child is unable to be sufficiently relaxed to be himself. On the … Continue reading..
January 23, 2017
Before I gave birth to my second son, I wondered if I would be able to treat two children fairly or love them with the same intensity. I had had my first son for a long time before my second came into the picture. We were a three-person family for almost seven years. Everything about that time felt precious. There was a lot of time for flashcards. Now, if a flashcard mistakenly found its way into my little one’s Pokémon deck; he’d shrug, figure he couldn’t get much for it on the open market, and toss it. But with my firstborn, we had countless flashcard hours.
Around that same time, I’d read an article about how parents generally see the differences between their children, and not the similarities. I promised myself that wouldn’t be my focus. In my ideal world, my children were going to love being brothers. They would respect their differences and delight in their common ground. I would work hard to ensure the best possible sibling relationship. After all, there were so many years between them—I didn’t want anything else coming between.
Well, now that I’m the Mom to two boys, I do find myself contemplating … Continue reading..