Blog for Moms Over 35

Our group for older moms over 35 parenting later in life blog features moms and experts sharing.  We share about living life fully over age 35, and write not just about parenting experiences, but life, growth, aging, etc.

Given Robin’s personal passion for sharing cool finds, travel destinations, unique attractions and theatre going, she writes periodic reviews of products, services, trips, Broadway and Off Broadway shows and other forms of entertainment, attractions and leisure pursuits….whether for kids, moms or couples.

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Guest Post: A Silent Rebuke by Sandra Butler, co-author with Nan Gefen, It Never Ends: Mothering Middle-Aged Daughters

August 30, 2017

Whenever my mother came to visit during the early years of my own mothering, I allowed my two young daughters to make messes. I encouraged them to express both their disagreements and their often disagreeable thoughts. Raising daughters who knew how they felt and had the confidence to speak up for what they thought was right and fair was a value I held, one emerging from my own longing and inability as a child to express my feelings and, as my grandmother would have put it, “stick up for myself.” My mother’s intention was to raise children who were well behaved and successful. Perhaps that was her way of communicating to her immigrant mother that she was living the American dream of white upwardly mobile motherhood of the l940’s and 50’s. She had a well scrubbed carefully furnished house. Obedient children. Her own car. All markers of American success.

Now I understand that much of my own behavior in those long ago years were designed to show my mother how she should have mothered me, even though I didn’t know it then. Unlike her rule-bound and orderly expectations, I was playful and free with my daughters. I wanted her to … Continue reading..

Goal Setting for a Child with ADHD by Dr. Sarah Cheyette, MD (Book Excerpt)

August 28, 2017

*Adapted from ADHD & The Focused Mind © 2016 by Sarah Cheyette, MD, Peter Johnson, and Ben Cheyette, MD, PhD. Square One Publishers, Inc. Used by permission.


Failing to achieve a goal that your child had previously set is also an opportunity for him to reevaluate whether or not it’s the right goal. It’s important to teach your child to use “flexible thinking.” Sometimes the goal—or the plan to achieve the goal—does need to be adjusted if it is not working out. Although we certainly don’t recommend “giving up”(or “choosing not to play”) as a general approach to challenges, it is important to balance persistence in the face of a setback with a thoughtful evaluation of what went wrong, and consideration of whether the goal is still the right goal and worth going for again. Taking a breather, or trying something else for a while, makes sense sometimes.

Sometimes the wrong goal was set to begin with. The initial goal may have been too ambitious—e.g., saying “I want to play basketball as well as Kobe Bryant” or “I will only be satisfied with 100 percent on the test” instead of … Continue reading..

Weeping in the Playground by Pamela Francis

August 28, 2017

I was standing in the middle of the playground weeping.

Not because I got hurt – although with the weird new thing happening with my hip when I walk, and the awkward way I’ve been ascending the stairs at home and at work, and the crazy phenomenon whereby I can no longer keep my arms raised and outstretched above my head for any length of time…(??!!) can injury be far behind?

I turned 50 this past birthday.  My soon-to-be 15-yr old has entered high school, and my 7-yr old is now the age big bro was back when I’d thought I was “home-free” the 1st time around (but had somehow managed to spring another bambino on us at 43), so guess what…?  I have returned to the work force.  I am back in the classroom.  I am out on the playground.  And I am weeping at the sight of all these energetic, courageous young bodies dangling from monkey bars and tearing around the bases during kickball.  Will I ever be so brave again, I wonder?

I used to love roller coasters.  Six Flags Great Adventures’ Lightning Loops was no match for my derring do back in the day.  But last … Continue reading..

Finding My Way … by Andrea Santo Felcone

August 16, 2017

Here’s a little known fact. I was supposed to be “Queen of the Corn Maze.” Or maybe my rightful title was going to be, “First Lady of the Corn Maze”? Or “Maid of the Maize Maze”? I’m not sure. My children were supposed to be heirs to a Corn Maze Empire; those little niblets–rolling in all of that cold, hard, corn cash. But it doesn’t matter now, because what could have been, alas, will never be.

Let me explain. You know how the longer you know your spouse/partner the more details he/she reveals about themselves? Sometimes, surprising details. Well, only just a few years ago, my husband revealed that he is the rightful–yet uncredited–inventor of the Corn Maze.corn maze

(I’ll pause while you take that in.)

Well, sure, I knew he had a Landscape Architecture degree and had all kinds of knowledge of plants–their species, their Latin names, which grow best under certain conditions, etc. But, what he had not yet disclosed (and maybe secretly harbored bitterness over) was that he was the original inventor of the Corn Maze (at least in the United States) and no one had ever acknowledged his achievement. Because, when, back in Landscape Architecture class “Blah, … Continue reading..

Nip Bad Behavior in the Bud (Book Excerpt from IGNORE IT!) by Catherine Pearlman

August 14, 2017

The Preemptive Strike

Sometimes parents don’t feel they have the time or energy to do Ignore it!. They try to forestall it—but not in a helpful way. Every few seconds, Mom or Dad might say, “You better stop that or I’ll [fill in the punishment].” The problem with this is twofold. First, parents repeatedly threaten with [fill in the punishment], but they know (and the child knows) that punishment will likely never come. It’s a completely empty threat. If the parents were really going to go through with the penalty, they would just act, not merely threaten it. The second issue is that, in the process of trying to avoid having to Ignore it!, the parent is providing the very attention that is reinforcing the behavior.

Offense is your best defense. Be proactive in planning or using the other preventative measures discussed in Chapter 11. However, if the child is already exhibiting the behavior you are trying to eliminate, warning that you will soon start to Ignore it! will not work. In fact, it does the opposite. Just Ignore it! and then it will go away.

Let’s Speed This Up

Parents are busy people. Even ones who are conscientiously trying … Continue reading..

“KIDNAP” Movie Review (and Moms Night Out) by Andrea Santo Felcone

August 4, 2017

Halle Berry Kidnap Movie

Halle Berry, New York City’s “KIDNAP” advanced screening

It had been one of those days, so I was really looking forward to the “KIDNAP” movie advanced screening–graciously set up for me, by Motherhood Later. Normally, I wouldn’t go to a kidnapping movie. It’s really the last place you’d find me. I don’t find it relaxing to watch children getting snatched; call me crazy. In fact, that feeling–that we probably all have had at one point in our lives, where for just one second you can’t find your child, in a store, or a park–is about one of the worst panicky feelings I’ve ever had. So, as parents, do we want to see kidnapping as part of what entertains us? I wasn’t sure; it seems odd to want to be entertained in that way. But, maybe these kinds of movies help us process our fears? I was willing to be open-minded. And, this screening promised a special appearance by Halle Berry herself, and apparently my desire to see an A-list celebrity outweighed my anxiety.

So, I grabbed a friend and we headed to NYC for this advanced screening. As a group of us waited to be allowed into the theater; we … Continue reading..

Where Everybody Knows Your Name by Mary Matoula Webb

August 4, 2017

I was a painfully shy kid. To the point that elementary school teachers would always bring it up at parent-teacher conferences, “She’s so bright but she never speaks in class.”  I eventually lost the “painfully” part and, as thousands of other shy kids have done, mastered the introvert-defying tricks to fit into society. 

I still get a little bashful at times when the spotlight is brightly shining on me. Not the me that can teach a birth class, that’s the nurse version of me. Or the me that acts on stage, that’s the actor version of me. But the me version of me? Well, she’s been known to still shrug and give a quite smile when all eyes are firmly fixed upon her. 

My husband and I have recently relocated to the other side of the country to live with my mother-in-law. She is well liked, well established, and well known in the community. And now so are we. 

“Oh! You’re Mary, the one with the miracle baby!”

I’ve heard this so many times, exclaimed with the spirit of joy and celebration, from people I hardly know. I say thank you and nod and agree that my husband and Continue reading..

Mom Theatre Blogger: 54 BELOW: The Cast of Cats Sings Andrew Lloyd Webber by Robin Gorman Newman

July 31, 2017

Sir Andrew Lloyd Webber is one of the most successful composers in musical theatre history, and I recently had the opportunity to attend a concert at Feinstein’s/54 Below, featuring the cast of Cats saluting his musical prowess.

With songs from Evita, Sunset Boulevard, The Phantom of the Opera, Starlight Express, School of Rock, Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat…and more….it was an evening to remember….literally.  Opening the program was Jessica Hendy, a veteran Cats star in the role of Grizabella, who shared both her behind the scenes stories and her strong, beautiful pipes as she kicked off the program by belting the iconic song Memory.

The other triple threat performers included  Richard Todd Adams, Maria Failla, Lili Froehlich, Francesca Granell, Harris Milgrim, Madison Mitchell, Megan Ort, Arianna Rosario, Christine Cornish Smith and Tanner Ray Wilson.  The song lineup featured a combination of solos and duets, and each performer more then delivered.

I have become an ardent fan of this venue. Feinstein’s/54 Below is  such a class act and lovely, intimate space that offers a great opportunity to see Broadway’s best up close ‘n personal.  There’s no bad seat in the house, and sometimes you

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