All Kinds of Headaches—by Jamie Levine

It’s been a pretty stressful week for me; my summer classes are wrapping up and I’ve been immersed in end-of-semester projects and annoying teacher certification tests (which are completely unrelated to speech-language pathology, but are necessary for me to pass in order to work in a school in September). Unsurprisingly, I’ve also been plagued with migraines. Migraine-suffering has been a part of my life for quite awhile, but natural supplements and occasional doses of prescription medication have kept them manageable for me. Lately, however, they’ve been out-of-control, lingering on for two to three days at a time.

Jayda knows all about my “headaches,” and while I never let them debilitate me when I’m around her (I’ve learned how to function fully while I’m suffering through one), I do sometimes beg off reading bedtime books to her, and opt for television-watching at night, instead. With Jayda happily snuggled on my lap watching “Victorious,” I can close my eyes and quietly cope with the pain. And my considerate kid always does her best to “help” me. The other evening, Jayda asked, “Mommy, do you want me to kiss it where it hurts?” and before I could respond, placed a gentle kiss directly over my right eye—the exact spot where my migraine is always located. Then, she hopped off of my lap and said, “Want me to give you a “mash-age?” and awkwardly rubbed my shoulders and my neck for two minutes before asking, “All better?” and crawling back onto my lap. I appreciated the sentiment, and as any good mother would do, declared myself to be feeling “muuuuuch better now.” And in a way, I was. No matter how miserable I feel physically, sweet moments with Jayda always put things in perspective for me, and make me smile.

When I finally put Jayda in her bed that night, she announced, “Maybe I’ll be a nurse when I grow up!” I responded, “That would be great, Jayda. You’d be a good nurse.” Then she thought for a minute and said, “Nahhhh…I think I’ll be a singer in a band…or maybe a hair-cutting person!” And again, just as any good mother would say, I reassured her, “you can be whatever you want to be—and you’ll be great at it.” But deep-down, I was reminded that motherhood isn’t always perfect, and sometimes children can be the cause of headaches, too. Here’s hoping Jayda changes her mind yet again; maybe she’ll even decide to be a doctor….even a neurologist who can really help her mommy!

  1. 3 Responses to “All Kinds of Headaches—by Jamie Levine”

  2. My mother suffered terrible migraines when I was a girl. She would be bed ridden for about 5 days a month, during which time you only saw her out of bed if she was in the bath vomiting up what little she could stomach eating. It was necessary during those times to keep her room pitch dark, and the whole house as quiet as a church on Friday night. There’s never been a time since that I felt quite so helpless to fix a situation.

    Letting your daughter “help” is giving her confidence, and being with her even when you feel like wallowing in bed teaches her responsibility, not to mention that YOU can be relied on. Way to go, mama! Feel better. :)

    By Heather on Aug 6, 2012

  3. Thanks, Heather. I’m grateful I’ve learned (probably from my OWN oh-so-strong mama) how to just “grin and bear it” so I CAN be there for my kid when I’m in pain. It still sucks (and Jayda knows it sucks), but I won’t let it beat me — or keep me from being there for her. :)

    By Jamie on Aug 7, 2012

  4. Also, get your reproductive hormones checked. While going through peri-menopause, I had migraines and dizziness that became practically debilitating. But just like you, I forged through it and even took my son to a loud birthday party once…dizzy and suffering. But nothing was going to take joy away from my child, as you well know!

    I won’t even get into what happened to me on my son’s birthday yesterday. Let’s just say, I smiled as much as I could and when he was tired, I laid on his bed, curled up right next to him, and went to sleep.

    By Cara Potapshyn Meyers on Aug 7, 2012