Blog for Moms Over 35

Our group for older moms over 35 parenting later in life blog features moms and experts sharing.  We share about living life fully over age 35, and write not just about parenting experiences, but life, growth, aging, etc.

Given Robin’s personal passion for sharing cool finds, travel destinations, unique attractions and theatre going, she and others write periodic reviews of products, services, trips, Broadway and Off Broadway shows and other forms of entertainment, attractions and leisure pursuits….whether for kids, moms or couples.

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Vacation Reflection

December 11, 2008

Amazing how much I love my bed when I return from vacation.

We recently got new mattresses, and it’s been a bigger adjustment than I anticipated. But, now that I’m getting used to it, I hate to leave it.

The older I get, the more I crave my beloved creature comforts. And, sleeping on a great bed that I’m accustomed to is one of them. Not to mention my pillow and egyptian cotton sheets.

I think back to my younger days when I lived in a college dorm, spent a summer with a family living in Nice, and took many a trip to Europe, staying in affordable (if not downright cheap) hotels in my 20s, and not thinking twice about the bed. It was all about the cost.

And, taking long plane rides didn’t bother me. Now, I find I get restless even on a short flight. And, feel somewhat confined in the seats…feeling the need to stretch.

And of course, traveling with a five year old is a whole different experience. My son loves flying, and now that he’s learning to read, he took tremendous pleasure in attempting to decipher and spell out phonetically the many technical words on … Continue reading..

40 Something Mom Memory

December 4, 2008

How is yours?

Your memory…that is.

This morning, I received a copy of an email newsletter I subscribe to, and they featured an article on this very subject. It came across my computer screen at a timely moment, as I prepare to go out of town and am hustling to remember/tackle all that I need to do before I leave.

I also find this a topic of discussion with other moms my age. Do you?

Since I turned 40, my memory is just not as sharp.

Thankfully I’ve always been detail-minded, but I find it’s even more necessary now. And, there are times when I feel like I have to pick up the slack for others who struggle to keep track because they don’t have a system.

For example, I was at the gym the other day and needed to change my workout appointment with my trainer. She asked if I could call her the day before to remind her of the time change. I thought….now not only do I have to write the new time in my calendar, but I have to include a note to myself to call her. That’s double memory duty for me. Yet, I knew … Continue reading..

Cool Kids Show in NYC

November 29, 2008

I’m taking quick departure here to wish you all a Happy Thanksgiving. Hope you had a good one.

We’ve been running around a lot this weekend, doing all kinds of cool stuff with Seth. Tomorrow we are going to see Bolt. And, today we went to see Gustafer Yellowgold’s Mellow Sensation in NYC.

If you are a New Yorker, or even if you’re not, you can check out their offerings on

Gustafer is a whimsical, little yellow creature from the sun who now lives on earth with three friends, a pet eel named Slimothy, dragon named Asparagus and pterodactyl named Forrest Applecrumbie.

The 50 minute show features a “funny and touching multi-media concert of live songs, stories and animation.” It was delightful. Talented founder Morgan Taylor, songwriter/illustrator and creator of Gustafer, leads the musical group of four and tells stories, interacts with the audience, etc.

Whether this is your child’s introduction to a live theatre event, or they are a veteran of children’s productions, no doubt they will enjoy, as will you.… Continue reading..


November 22, 2008

To give you an update….we made it through week three without a nanny unscathed, and things are gradually shaping up on this end.

We decided to enroll my son in an after school program for two days. Turns out a bunch of boys he knows are also in the program, so he’s a happy camper about going there. And, we feel good about him having further socializing opportunities. Having him there is also helping me to straighten out my schedule, since I know that I have a bigger chunk of time available during the day to get things done. I feel a bit less like I’m racing the clock, though there still never seems to be enough hours in the day these days.

I’ve been sharing our nanny story with people gradually…those who knew her…and everyone is a bit stunned at the way it sadly concluded. Myself included, of course.

It made me think back to when Seth was a little one and how we’ve always had help. This is a whole new experience for us. So many moms I know have family support, which is so wonderful.

As Thanksgiving approaches, I become accutely conscious of family. I was speaking … Continue reading..


November 17, 2008

My nanny left two weeks ago, and I’ve been counting the days, for better or worse.

I was spoiled, I admit it. We’ve had a nanny since Seth was born, and now I’m in a bit of culture shock. Me…do laundry? Me….cook? Me…make the beds?

But, really, it’s for the best. It, sadly, ended in a more dramatic fashion that I ever would have imagined. And, it wasn’t planned. But, it was a long time in the coming.

Our nanny wasn’t well suited to Seth anymore. She is wonderful with babies who she can love and care for. But, for a busy five year old, he’s more than she could handle on a daily basis. And, I understand. I’m 48 and peri-menopausal. Some days he knocks me out too, but he’s my son…it’s not a job I get paid to do.

We’ve all been adjusting. I feel like I’m racing the clock more these days since I have no flexibility with my schedule as I did before, since she was live-in.

But, we’ve decided to enroll Seth in an after school program for two days, starting today. I’m crossing my fingers that he’ll like it. I feel like it’s a
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Same wave length

November 7, 2008

I just finished reading Robin’s blog and I find I have a case of déjà vu. I too recently returned from a business trip that involved a little vacationing time for myself. A movie, a massage, a little shopping…a very interesting prospect for a woman who only has alone time late at night. Sadly, I forgot my journal or not, since as a writer I am doing absolutely no writing at all. I teach writing, but have no landscape in which to think. I have even stopped checking the Lowe’s ads for the storage barn, 10′ x 10′ that I promised to buy myself and make into an office once I started back teaching full time. The question of self-care is something I am grappling with in an ongoing way.

When I first started teaching in NYC and was working on my masters, I had a professor tell me that I needed to put in one hour per day so that I could really get some work done with my poems. After a day of teaching I would usually lay down around 6:30pm and wake up the next morning at 6:00am. I realized I was too wiped out to work … Continue reading..

A Canyon Ranch State of Mind

October 31, 2008

I am in a Canyon Ranch state of mind, and am fighting hard to stay that way.

I returned late Tuesday night (last week) from Tucson, where I stayed for five nights, sans husband or child. I was invited to speak there re: my books, and I stayed on a bit to vacation. Let me just say (and they’re not paying me to endorse them), that Canyon Ranch is a really special experience. I actually found it life-altering on more levels than I anticipated.

Spending some alone time opened up an emotional well for me. Here I was with a rare opportunity to chill solo, and I’m crying on more than one occasion. This visit touched a nerve…a BIG one. I went with the intent on working on some specific things, i.e. weight loss, and trying some new exercise options, and I emerged feeling that I do have the ability to take some control.

I connected with some cool women who made me feel welcome. It was a bit of a challenge for me to be traveling alone, but I didn’t have any friends who could accompany me at this time, and my husband isn’t a spa fan. Once there, … Continue reading..

Trip Guilt

October 22, 2008

I am so conflicted.

I’m off tomorrow for a six day jaunt to Canyon Ranch in Tucson where I’m leading two workshops based on my book HOW TO MARRY A MENSCH.

I’m going by myself, which is a unique traveling experience for me. And, I feel like I’m racing the clock like a crazy person. Doing even more multi-tasking than I already do.

Aside from packing and preparing for my talks, I’m jumping ahead to projects that will arise when I return, trying to anticipate tasks so I can potentially kickstart them now. And, I’m planning dinners for Seth while I’m gone, his snacks for school, etc.

No wonder I couldn’t sleep last night, with all that is going through my head. I jumped up at 3AM to send myself an email on my Blackberry, so I’d get it at my computer this morning and not forget to do something.

Part of me finds the notion of the trip freeing. When was the last time I had an opportunity to really focus on myself, aside from lecturing to singles? As relaxed as I hope I’ll be once there, I’m doing a number on myself right now to pack all the … Continue reading..