Blog for Moms Over 35

Our group for older moms over 35 parenting later in life blog features moms and experts sharing.  We share about living life fully over age 35, and write not just about parenting experiences, but life, growth, aging, etc.

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November 22, 2008

To give you an update….we made it through week three without a nanny unscathed, and things are gradually shaping up on this end.

We decided to enroll my son in an after school program for two days. Turns out a bunch of boys he knows are also in the program, so he’s a happy camper about going there. And, we feel good about him having further socializing opportunities. Having him there is also helping me to straighten out my schedule, since I know that I have a bigger chunk of time available during the day to get things done. I feel a bit less like I’m racing the clock, though there still never seems to be enough hours in the day these days.

I’ve been sharing our nanny story with people gradually…those who knew her…and everyone is a bit stunned at the way it sadly concluded. Myself included, of course.

It made me think back to when Seth was a little one and how we’ve always had help. This is a whole new experience for us. So many moms I know have family support, which is so wonderful.

As Thanksgiving approaches, I become accutely conscious of family. I was speaking … Continue reading..


November 17, 2008

My nanny left two weeks ago, and I’ve been counting the days, for better or worse.

I was spoiled, I admit it. We’ve had a nanny since Seth was born, and now I’m in a bit of culture shock. Me…do laundry? Me….cook? Me…make the beds?

But, really, it’s for the best. It, sadly, ended in a more dramatic fashion that I ever would have imagined. And, it wasn’t planned. But, it was a long time in the coming.

Our nanny wasn’t well suited to Seth anymore. She is wonderful with babies who she can love and care for. But, for a busy five year old, he’s more than she could handle on a daily basis. And, I understand. I’m 48 and peri-menopausal. Some days he knocks me out too, but he’s my son…it’s not a job I get paid to do.

We’ve all been adjusting. I feel like I’m racing the clock more these days since I have no flexibility with my schedule as I did before, since she was live-in.

But, we’ve decided to enroll Seth in an after school program for two days, starting today. I’m crossing my fingers that he’ll like it. I feel like it’s a
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Same wave length

November 7, 2008

I just finished reading Robin’s blog and I find I have a case of déjà vu. I too recently returned from a business trip that involved a little vacationing time for myself. A movie, a massage, a little shopping…a very interesting prospect for a woman who only has alone time late at night. Sadly, I forgot my journal or not, since as a writer I am doing absolutely no writing at all. I teach writing, but have no landscape in which to think. I have even stopped checking the Lowe’s ads for the storage barn, 10′ x 10′ that I promised to buy myself and make into an office once I started back teaching full time. The question of self-care is something I am grappling with in an ongoing way.

When I first started teaching in NYC and was working on my masters, I had a professor tell me that I needed to put in one hour per day so that I could really get some work done with my poems. After a day of teaching I would usually lay down around 6:30pm and wake up the next morning at 6:00am. I realized I was too wiped out to work … Continue reading..

A Canyon Ranch State of Mind

October 31, 2008

I am in a Canyon Ranch state of mind, and am fighting hard to stay that way.

I returned late Tuesday night (last week) from Tucson, where I stayed for five nights, sans husband or child. I was invited to speak there re: my books, and I stayed on a bit to vacation. Let me just say (and they’re not paying me to endorse them), that Canyon Ranch is a really special experience. I actually found it life-altering on more levels than I anticipated.

Spending some alone time opened up an emotional well for me. Here I was with a rare opportunity to chill solo, and I’m crying on more than one occasion. This visit touched a nerve…a BIG one. I went with the intent on working on some specific things, i.e. weight loss, and trying some new exercise options, and I emerged feeling that I do have the ability to take some control.

I connected with some cool women who made me feel welcome. It was a bit of a challenge for me to be traveling alone, but I didn’t have any friends who could accompany me at this time, and my husband isn’t a spa fan. Once there, … Continue reading..

Trip Guilt

October 22, 2008

I am so conflicted.

I’m off tomorrow for a six day jaunt to Canyon Ranch in Tucson where I’m leading two workshops based on my book HOW TO MARRY A MENSCH.

I’m going by myself, which is a unique traveling experience for me. And, I feel like I’m racing the clock like a crazy person. Doing even more multi-tasking than I already do.

Aside from packing and preparing for my talks, I’m jumping ahead to projects that will arise when I return, trying to anticipate tasks so I can potentially kickstart them now. And, I’m planning dinners for Seth while I’m gone, his snacks for school, etc.

No wonder I couldn’t sleep last night, with all that is going through my head. I jumped up at 3AM to send myself an email on my Blackberry, so I’d get it at my computer this morning and not forget to do something.

Part of me finds the notion of the trip freeing. When was the last time I had an opportunity to really focus on myself, aside from lecturing to singles? As relaxed as I hope I’ll be once there, I’m doing a number on myself right now to pack all the … Continue reading..

Mommy Cliques

October 2, 2008

I was speaking with a mom friend the other day who commented on how she felt like she was back in high school, and I fully understood. Here we are, two “later” moms in our 40s, feeling like we’re 16 again, wanting to be liked. Holding on to old/existing/close friendships, yet yearning to connect with other moms in our local area for playdates, lunch, etc.

We’ve got many years experience on the work and personal front behind us, yet now we feel like we’re backpedaling in the mom friendship department.

What is that about? Has that happened to you?

Case in point….

I was at McDonald’s earlier this week with Seth. We are far from regulars there, but he was craving a Happy Meal toy and loves playing in their climbing maze.

We went there for lunch, and after eating, I parked myself on a bench in the outdoor area while Seth befriended some other children and ran around, having a great time. I had brought with me a supply of magazines and my Blackberry, so I could stay plugged in to emails (yes…I’m obsessed) and catch up on some reading.

Two moms entered the play area, one of whom … Continue reading..

Trip Up Memory Lane

September 20, 2008

I took a trip down memory lane this week.

I tagged along with Marc on his business trip to Nashville. It was my first time there and I didn’t know what to expect.

We stayed at the gorgeous Gaylord Opryland Resort & Conference Center.

Marc was at the conference fulltime, so I was on my own for the most part.

Flying out we realized it was our first trip together, without Seth, since before becoming parents. Seth stayed home with our nanny. We didn’t want to take him out of Kindergarten, as he is new at the school and all is going well so far. We’d like to keep it that way and not disrupt his routime.

So, while we were away together, we were basically ships that pass in the night due to his meeting schedule.

That said, I passed the time doing stuff that would interest me more than him anyway. This included shopping, getting a massage, and listening to music.

I discovered a surprising, newfound appreciation for musical expression. I had always heard about Nashville and it’s music roots, but to experience it first hand is something I could not anticipate.

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A Sandwich Generation Day: Cycles of Life

September 3, 2008

I have blogged on this subject before, and at the risk of being redundant, I feel the need to share my experiences of yesterday.

I am calling it a true “Sandwich Generation” Day. And, I wonder if you can relate. I’d love your feedback and to hear your experiences if you’d like to share.

Like many, I’m sorry to see summer come to an end. We had such a blast at our community pool, and I will really miss it.

Not only do I find the change of season a bit challenging, but yesterday, and this whole week, for that matter, I find myself in a somewhat conflicted emotional state.

Seth started Kindergarten today, and I took him to meet his teacher and to see the classroom and classmates. It feels surreal that he has hit this stage of his education. He loved the school, and got particularly thrilled when he asked the teacher if they go on class trips. She said yes, and the first trip is to a firehouse. Well…she couldn’t have said anything better for Seth. Firehouses are his most favorite place in the world.

I am both excited for him and a little melancholy that he … Continue reading..