Why is the process of adoption such a challenge?
I have such a mixed feeling about this.
My son is adopted, and we went through a very difficult and emotional course until we successfully became his parents.
Adoption is a common path for many later parents, and while I know some who seemed to make a child their own with greater ease, I know others struggling.
A close mom friend of mine now wants to add to her family through adoption and has shared with me how overwhelming all the paperwork felt, etc., just getting to the point of being able to advertise. Now she is speaking with potential birthmothers, and that’s a whole different experience which nothing in life truly prepares you for.
On one hand, I respect that a legal system was put in place to protect children and ideally have them adopted by good homes. However, it just seems that many families whose hearts are in such a good place, and want to adopt, not only have to pay a lot of money to do so, but then have to endure the process which can easily feel like an emotional rollercoaster.
And, sometimes it doesn’t even seem like a reality that you will get a child. This friend of mine has big moments of doubt, and I totally empathize. We went through that as well. Until it happens, it’s not an easy thing to believe. It can be such a waiting game, all the while your heart just yearns to love and provide for a child.
I feel for the aspiring moms out there who have chosen to go the adoption route, for whatever reason. It’s a wonderful way to create a family. I just wish that somehow the process was more inviting or easier to follow.
I have assured my friend that the child she is meant to get will find its way into her home. But, until then, she has anxious periods of waiting for the phone to ring and holding her breath that it will be a truly viable situation that they can see through to completion.
Have you adopted, and what was your experience? Did you find the process a hard one? Did you have your doubts that it would happen for you?