Enough About That, Now Why Am I Here? by Dina Ramon
Now that I have been officially welcomed into the Motherhood Later… community with the launch last Thursday of my first weekly blog post, I suppose I should introduce myself, my family, and provide some insight as to why I am doing this – blogging about motherhood, that is.
For a snapshot of my history….After many years living and working in Washington, DC, I married in my late 30s – just celebrated my 12th wedding anniversary – and gave birth to my one-and-only child in my early 40s. My precious daughter was born one week before my birthday and she was, and continues to be, the best birthday present of my life.
Having said that, I do sometimes feel that I ‘stand out,’ am ‘special,’ ‘different,’ however one might want to call it, being that I am the mother of an ‘only’ and am definitely one of the oldest, if not the oldest mom in the local elementary school where my daughter is about to finish second grade. I know that the choice to have an only is on the rise, and I am personally thrilled with my own situation but still sense that others negatively question it and can’t fathom having only one child. It seems that 3 kids is the ‘magic’ number these days. I know that on only works for me (and my husband), so I most definitely look beyond any off-putting vibes I sense from others.
Of course, along with parenting in general, having an only child and being an older mom does have its particular challenges – am I too smothering? Do I play with her enough? Will she develop a sense of loneliness as she grows up? What if I develop a chronic illness? How do I avoid becoming old and grumpy and someone she doesn’t want to be around? Why am I too dumb in math to help her with her homework?…. (although that last one applies to my life in general, not just parenting). I hope that the experiences, dilemmas, and personal triumphs I share about nurturing and guiding this little person as she grows up and learns about life, will resonate with other moms.
So as a new, regular contributor to Motherhood Later… I plan to mix it up on the challenges of parenting life, my new “working for myself from home” situation, and my transition into the parental ‘sandwich’ – which for me means checking in on my elderly parents from afar and visiting them as often as possible, while raising my own child. What I learn along the way will, I hope, engage and strengthen the Motherhood Later…community, and do the same for me!