Baby Steps — by Robin

In case you are yearning for a basement update……we finally had our plumbing inspection done today. Unreal….it took nearly a month to get the guy here. Next up is the town inspection, and then we’re good to go….with some minor items yet to be done by the contractor. Everything will be moved back downstairs, and life will resume.

That said, I’m now in the throes of attempting to organize.

I feel like we’ve moved. Not only do we have to get things in order upstairs since so much was moved up to the main floor for safe-keeping, but we (I) then have to decide what goes where in the basement.

We went to Target this weekend and bought a ton of plastic bins…varying sizes…to store Seth’s toys. I am spending this week pouring through the bins of toys we have in the living…and then his bedroom….to create a place for each of them. Of course, in the mix, I’m finding tons of little and big pieces with no obvious home.

I’m not great at just throwing out stuff. It’s something I’m working on…not just for Seth, but myself. I can’t live well in a state of clutter. I don’t know how anyone can. But, it’s also not easy to take the bull by the horns and devote the time that is needed to create a sytem in your home. Ultimately you’ll be all the better for it, but it’s a painstaking process.

And, Marc (my husband) isn’t overly up for the task. And, Seth can only do so much. So, it’s on my shoulders. And, I must admit, I have moments where I feel resentful. This is not fun. But, then I remind myself that lots of life’s projects require major time and effort and are not always a joy, depending on the stage you’re in.

In a perfect world, we’d all have the opportunity to focus on our passions, but we do have responsibilities. And, since I’ve become a mom, I’m all the more conscious of that.

I feel like there is so much that I take care of. My husband has his share too. But, since I’m the one working from home, I’m constantly bouncng back ‘n forth from activity to activity.

I was part of a “prayer” call this week that a friend of mine arranged. She was in need of the empowering energy of a group to help her attract more money into her life. Who wouldn’t want that?! But, she truly is in need.

So, I participated. Not being sure what this would entail. While the focus was on my friend, it’s interesting how you can take away even when you’re not the center of attention. We each had a chance to introduce ourselves and then share ideas and thoughts for my friend. Then, the facilitator shared her sentiments, and it hit home for me.

In the midst of all the tasks of life that we have on our plates, as women, we are often hard on ourselves. She emphasized the need to be self forgiving. To cut ourselves some slack as we endeavor to be all things to all people.

And, one of the gals added the importance of making time for self and having fun or just chilling.

I know I can be hard on myself, and it’s something I need to work on. And, I could use more belly laughs for sure. And reflexology massages.

While a big part of me wishes I could just snap my fingers and have my house (and basement) in tip top shape, if I focus on what is realistic for me to accomplish today and each day, little by little, step by step, things will get done.

It might feel like baby steps. But, I remember when my son took his first baby steps, and now, in the blink of a eye, as the years have quickly passed, he’s itching to play football.

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