Future Later Mom Empty Nester


I am so tired of this winter. Are you?

And, Seth’s school bus is stressing me out.

The bus aide gave me the evil eye the other day when we weren’t standing outside awaiting their arrival. It’s cold out there in the morning. Can’t we wait just inside our doorway, and Seth can scamper out when they arrive?

Today the bus was two hours late. There was a school opening delay due to the weather yet again.

I ask you….are we done with snow yet this season? I hate the ice and mess. Don’t like driving or walking on it. It’s just not my thing. A sno-bunny I’m not.

So, why do I live in a place like New York? Sometimes I wonder. Though, there’s a lot good to be said about it, but the weather wouldn’t be high on my list.

Seth said a funny thing the other day.

He announced how a little girl in his class wants to marry him, and he might want to marry her one day. Not now, of course. They’re 5. (though I often say he’s 5 going on 15) And, he went on to say that when he gets married, he’d like to live in our house. Not with us….but without us…I presume.

Part of me thought, that would be cool, if he really means it. I’m not sure I personally want to live in this house forever. I do love my house (and we’re about to embark on a major basement project). But, life in suburbia doesn’t always suit me. I might like to live in the city one day and maybe even retire there.

But, how do you decide where you want to retire? Some flock to warmer climates, and I wouldn’t mind that. But, would I be happy in a place like Florida or Arizona? Not sure. Maybe. I do like cactus and mountains and wild rabbits. It’s something to think about.

It also got me thinking about being a later mom empty nester one day. I have mom friends who are already empty nesters and are in their 50s. I don’t know how old I’ll be when I fit that bill, but I do know I’ll be at least 60 if not older. 60 feels like such a big number. Wow. Can you imagine?! Me 60 one day. G-d willing, that will be the case.

Where will I be in my life then? What will I want? Questions. Questions. And, I’m certainly not prepared to answer any of them.

How did I get on this topic anyway?

Oh yeah….it snowed here again, and I’m feeling a bit clastrophobic, having stayed in all day today.

Tomorrow is another day, and I have a luncheon meeting. Followed by a gym workout. I look forward to both.