Mom Bonding Across Ages: 40s Meet 20s by Jen Ambrose

Have you ever found yourself in a group of younger moms at a playgroup or school event and felt a bit out of your element? I’ve been there too.

I became a mom for the first time at 24, and now, at 46 with my eight-year-old Lacey, I’ve navigated motherhood from several vantage points. 

Understanding the Generational Mix

When I first started out as a mom in my 20s, it was all new and sometimes overwhelming. Fast forward to having Lacey at nearly 38, and the world of motherhood looked pretty different, especially surrounded by moms who were a lot younger. For example, where I once spent hours picking out the perfect stroller, I now swap tips on top educational apps with younger moms. 

Combining Old and New

The gap in technology use is real, but it’s also a great way to learn from each other. Younger moms might be all about the latest apps like Tik Tok, while I bring in my own tried-and-true methods. Sharing parenting strategies and tips can be a fun way to learn and grow together. 

Starting Conversations That Matter

Finding common ground is key. Whether we’re sharing laughs about our kids’ latest drama or simply connecting over our need for that morning coffee, these shared experiences often pave the way for conversations that are both meaningful and fun. Talking about my early mom days and how things are now always seems to spark some great chats. 

Creating Fun Bonding Experiences

It’s not just about chatting. Organizing playdates where everyone’s interests come together can be a blast. For example, setting up a day where my love for traditional crafts meets their trendy DIY projects creates a fun and inclusive environment. 

Embracing the Awkward Moments

Sometimes, connecting with moms from a different generation can feel awkward, but a little patience and a good laugh can go a long way. I remember a time when I brought up an old kids’ show (The Wiggles), not realizing it was ancient history for the younger moms. Their confused faces followed by laughter really broke the ice! 

Learning and Growing

Looking back from being a new mom at 24 to now, a mom of five at 46, I realize how much each stage of motherhood has taught me. My experiences, both as a younger and now older mom, give me a unique perspective that I bring to every school function and playgroup. 

Tips for Other Moms in This Situation

If you find yourself in a similar situation, here are some tips:

  1. Stay Open-Minded: Embrace the differences. There’s so much we can learn from each other.
  2. Find Common Ground: Whether it’s your kids, life’s little challenges, or just a shared love for a good cup of coffee, there’s always something to talk about.
  3. Plan Inclusive Activities: Organize playdates or school events that cater to a variety of interests. It’s a great way to bond and learn new things.
  4. Don’t Be Afraid to Share: Your experiences are valuable. Sharing your journey can help others and give you a new appreciation for your own path.
  5. Seek Support: If you’re feeling out of place, reach out to friends or online groups. You’re not alone and sharing experiences can be incredibly reassuring.

Wrapping this up, connecting with moms across different generations really boils down to being there for each other, swapping real-life stories, and just navigating the mom-life rollercoaster as a team. Let’s keep the conversations going, offer a hand or an ear when needed, and build a space where all moms, young or seasoned, feel right at home.


Certified life coach Jen Ambrose is a married mother of five and the founder of the non-profit Eye on Vision Foundation. A resident of Orlando, FL, Jen holds a bachelor’s degree in marketing, co-leads a local Christian moms’ group, and writes for her site,