And then they change… by Maureen Eich VanWalleghan


Raising kids is hard. Uncoupling while raising kids is even harder. The reasons one wants a divorce vary from relationship to relationship, but needless to say something becomes untenable and so one or both parties decide that ending the marriage is the only option. Throw in some kids and the complexity ...

Storytelling By Mothers by Maureen Eich VanWalleghan


Today, I watched First They Killed My Father, from director Angelina Jolie shot from the perspective of a five-year-old child experiencing personally the decimation of her family in Cambodia during the rise of the Khmer Rouge. Last night’s selection found me watching Bridget Jones’s Baby directed by Sharon Maguire. These ...

#MeToo At Home by M.E.VanWalleghan


Following the line of #MeToo into our homes can be painful. One of my biggest complaints about the coverage of Harvey Weinstein is his portrayal as a monster. He’s no monster, but rather the most egregious version of male power running unchecked. But where does it all start? Where is the ...

Considering Mother’s Day by Maureen Eich VanWalleghan


It’s Mother’s Day at 4:00am Santa Fe time or 3:00am Arizona time. I have just finished driving five hours—the last leg of our trip—from Arizona to Santa Fe so that my daughter can participate in a recital today, Mother’s Day. On the drive I was thinking about “what is Mother’s Day?” ...

Grandparents and Politics by Maureen Eich VanWalleghan


It’s Saturday morning and I am reading, reading on my iPhone. My daughter is relaxing. I’ve written little here because I have had little to say, particularly on Wednesdays, the day I thought I could write unencumbered. This morning I realized I have things to say on Saturday and that ...

Fostering Resilience by Maureen Eich VanWalleghan


I am so happy to be in a new year. My birthday was at the end of December and I always appreciate new beginnings. With a December birthday there is nothing that compares to the birthday wishes on Facebook. All the wishes remind me of blowing a dandelion. I feel ...

Creating Happiness by Maureen Eich VanWalleghan


My nightly reading to my daughter has revealed another blog post. We are still in the Rocky Ridge Years—specifically On The Other Side of the Hill, which chronicles a fictionalized version of Rose Wilder’s life written by Roger Lea MacBride. Tonight’s reading was about a cyclone and I have to ...

Are You “Motherwhelmed”? By Maureen Eich VanWalleghan


"Being a patient, involved and understanding mother who’s also conscious and intentional, while simultaneously maintaining a strong sense of self, pursuing your passions, following your dreams, fostering intimate relationships, creating community, excelling in your work (for pay), sticking to a budget, cultivating a rich home life, keeping fit, volunteering at ...

Being An Old Mommy by Maureen Eich VanWalleghan


Isn’t great how kids can keep it real? NOT, especially when it comes to age. One day in the bathroom my daughter let me know in a rather matter-of-fact way that I was an old mommy. I asked why she thought that. “Well you do have wrinkles like Grammie.” Ouch. ...

Enjoying the Grammie Factor by Maureen Eich VanWalleghan


Yesterday I happened into a new little shop and chatted up the owner. There was a hand towel that said “Caution: Free Range Children,” which got the conversation going. After talking a bit about the book Free-range Kids, the woman mentioned that she was a grandmother and her daughter, who ...