Blog for Later in Life Moms Over 35


Our group for later in life moms features mothers and experts sharing.  We share about living life fully over age 35, and write not just about parenting experiences, but life, growth, aging, etc.

Given Robin’s personal passion for sharing cool finds, travel destinations, unique attractions and theatre going, she and others write periodic reviews of products, services, trips, Broadway and Off Broadway shows and other forms of entertainment, attractions and leisure pursuits….whether for kids, moms or couples.

If you’d like to submit a topic, product, destination, event, show or attraction for consideration, write robin@motherhoodlater.com.  Happy to hear from you!

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What Do We Mean by Healthy Aging? By Dr. Murali Rao, author, 50+ and Healthy (Book Excerpt)


Tuesday
August 25, 2020

Chapter 4

Mental and Emotional Reserves

Research has been undertaken on the existence and the effects of ‘brain reserves’ as well as ‘emotional reserves’ in relation to later-life mental health. The first is still little known, and the starting premise is that — just as some people simply have greater muscular strength throughout their lives than others — brain strength or brain capacity is also different from one person to another. Does this brain reserve help to create or sustain later-life mental health? Stay tuned for more research results. Emotional reserves, like that greater muscular strength, is also a later-life resource to maintain mental health. These reserves are what allow some of us to deal head on with (and fairly quickly resolve and move on from) life’s challenges, troubles, shocks and stresses — while others of us wallow in them, wring our hands, get and stay emotional and reactive for quite a longer time. An ability to self-motivate and take one’s overall health in charge might be part of that emotional reserve, and it goes a long way to maintaining one’s physical, emotional and mental health. This might include self-monitoring, since major depression and dementia evolve slowly, over years and … Continue reading..



Be All In: Raising Kids for Success in Sports and Life by Christie Pearce Rampone and Dr. Kristine Keane (Book Excerpt)


Tuesday
August 18, 2020

Giving Honest Feedback

It is so hard to give negative feedback, especially to our children.  Research on management consistently shows that leaders tend to avoid giving feedback, especially negative or corrective feedback.2 This holds true for parenting as well. Parents are afraid of hurting their children’s feelings or doing damage to their self-esteem. On the flip side, they are afraid of inflating a false sense of pride and fostering cockiness or self-absorption.

Positive reinforcement assists in the development of children’s self-esteem and self-worth. Feelings of safety and security aid the development of internal models needed for tackling problems and handling adversity. Children need both rewards and ramifications  to perform well. Indeed, bad behavior brings consequences, and parents need to be the first line of defense for teaching that lesson as well. Christie recalls that teaching accountability was one of her toughest tasks as head coach of Sky Blue FC in 2009, during their run to winning the Women’s Professional Soccer national title.

A year after the US National Women’s Team won gold at the Beijing 2008 Olympics, we were on a high. Natasha Kai was a key member of that team. She had so much talent and could be relied Continue reading..



What’s One More Year? by Sharon O’Donnell


Friday
August 14, 2020

My middle son, and his fiance, have been dating since they were in 10th grade — it’ll be eleven years in November. Yep. 11 years. They went through high school together where they both played on the basketball and baseball/softball teams, and I still think it’s cute when they go outside to throw the baseball around.  They got engaged in December of 2018 and planned the wedding for October of 2020; he was busy getting his CPA certification, and she was in the middle of a five-year pharmacology PhD program at UVA, and she would also be working in a lab in Germany for the fall of 2019. Thus, waiting until October of 2020 made sense. We were sooo looking forward to the big day in Charlottesville.

But alas, Covid 19 came into the picture, and in July, my son and his fiance made the difficult decision to postpone the wedding rather than their wedding party and guests taking a risk with their health.  So now it’s October of 2021. Totally agree with the decision but still it’s disappointing. On the bright side, at least I’ll have another year to lose some weight before the big day!  I guess when … Continue reading..



There Are No “Negatives” in the Box Called Life by Doc Orman, M.D. (Book Excerpt)


Thursday
August 6, 2020

Chapter 5

HERE’S A PRESENT FOR YOU – ENJOY IT!

I now want to give you some pointers about how you can tell when your negative thinking is true and appropriate…and when it is not.

THERE ARE NO ‘NEGATIVES’ IN THE BOX CALLED ‘LIFE’

You know how when you buy something from a store, and it comes in a big box, there’s usually a list of all the contents inside of the box printed on the outside or on a separate sheet of paper located within the box. This list contains all the components that should be included in the box, and by inference, if something is not on the list, it’s not in the box.

Well, in many ways this same analogy can be applied to life. There are certain things that come in the ‘box’ called ‘life’ and other things that don’t. For example, in ‘the box called life’, you will find lots of living things and lots of non-living things.
In the category of living things, you will find plants, animals, bacteria, viruses, and human beings. You will find human bodies in the box. And you will find human language in the box. You will also find … Continue reading..



Living Happier Starting Today by Kevin Horsley and Louis Fourie (Book Excerpt)


Friday
July 31, 2020

CHAPTER 2

HAPPINESS IS…

 

THE FUNDAMENTAL FLAW IN SEARCHING for happiness ‘out there’ lies in confusing pleasure for happiness. This basic misperception leads to the belief that happiness is either a once-in-a-lifetime-delight, or the compound effect of many, more, or bigger ‘pleasurables’.

There is, of course, a place for pleasure. In fact, pleasurable moments and uplifting experiences are the spice of life. Make sure that you fully enjoy the ones you choose. Just understand that their effect wears off. Pleasure cannot be hoarded and then called happiness.

True happiness is not a derived outcome of the swings in a ‘pendulum of pleasure’. Happiness is the quality of the base on which the pendulum is mounted. It is not the reward of constant that-instead-of-this victories, but an overall rhythm in the way you live your life – a rhythm that applies in any context you find yourself, pleasurable or not. Although the ‘if-then’ notions of happiness are dominant and loud out there, the truth is that genuine happiness is a ‘now-and-here’ skill. It is the by-product of a specific way of living your life. It’s not on the horizon, it’s under your feet – not to be found ‘up there’, … Continue reading..



5 Ways to Encourage Creativity in Your Kids During the Summer


Tuesday
July 21, 2020

Kids love to create things, which is why they’re always using their imagination to invent new games or stories. But, getting them to focus on a specific craft or art skill is a way to further develop their creativity and help improve motor skills as they learn how to master a pencil, markers or even a paintbrush.

If you’re looking for ways to entertain your kids this summer, try planning a craft day together and work on a diamond painting or other fun project. This is the perfect way to get your child away from TVs or tablets and engage their minds in something new and creative. Check out some of our favorite ideas for parent-child crafting.

How Does Art Help with Child Development?

Although art is often one of the first programs to be cut in school funding, it is actually extremely beneficial towards the development of young children and adolescents. Research shows that art is one of the best mediums through which children and adults can express themselves. As a child, you’re still learning how to communicate and interact with the world around you. By participating in artistic activities, they get a better sense of self and develop … Continue reading..



College Planning in the Time of COVID – A Top 10 List by Brett Levine


Monday
July 20, 2020

 An article “A Year of Chaos and Flexibility,” featured July 2oth on InsideHigherEd.com, paints an uncertain picture for colleges trying to recruit, admit, and enroll students.

Like colleges that have to wrestle with so many unanswered questions, so do High School students. Unfortunately, there are no easy answers as High School students start the college search and application process.  A process that, due to COVID, has become more confusing. So, how should students proceed in the time of COVID?  Below are 10 suggestions:

  1. For those 2020 High School graduates, don’t be afraid to defer your admissions and take a Gap Year. Taking a year off between High School and College is a leap of faith, but it might be the right move.  And YES, there are meaningful experiences a student who takes this year off can take advantage of even during these times.
  2. Understand what’s happening with the SAT and ACT. Many colleges have waived the standardized testing requirement for the Freshmen class of 2021. Figure out where you stand with regard to this. Visit  https://www.fairtest.org/ for a comprehensive list of test-optional schools.
  3. For current Seniors, get ready to start working on your Common Application (If Applicable).   The Common Application
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Mindfulness: Free the Past and the Future by Sez Kristiansen, author, Inspired Mama (Book Excerpt)


Monday
July 13, 2020

My son started daycare as soon as I took up work again. I felt our connection slip away, so I decided to make “Mama and Mathias time” once a week. Sometimes it was just a morning, while other times it was a whole day; I devoted time to just being with him and doing whatever he wanted.

Have you ever followed a toddler down a road with no agenda, no time frame, and nowhere to go? It takes you to places and moments you could never imagine. It also takes a lot of patience.

At first, I simply could not understand why we had to stand and look at a crack in the concrete for twenty minutes, but once I let go of my conditioned need to “be somewhere” and surrendered to curiosity, it was magical. I could really see, with the eyes of a child, the appeal of this crack in the ground. Once I got down to his level, I saw a stream of ants filtering in and out, and the determined growth of a dandelion. Perhaps my son was thinking, “Where are they going? Does an ancient ant city lie below? Is the dandelion their marker so … Continue reading..