Blog for Later in Life Moms Over 35

Our group for later in life moms features mothers and experts sharing.  We share about living life fully over age 35, and write not just about parenting experiences, but life, growth, aging, etc.

Given Robin’s personal passion for sharing cool finds, travel destinations, unique attractions and theatre going, she and others write periodic reviews of products, services, trips, Broadway and Off Broadway shows and other forms of entertainment, attractions and leisure pursuits….whether for kids, moms or couples.

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The Back Forty: 7 Essential Embraces to Launch Life’s Radical Second Half by Darrell W. Gurney (Book Excerpt)

December 9, 2020

The Lay of the Land

The Back Forty is a metaphor with a double meaning. It is  a creative allusion to the second half of life, whether that second half will actually span thirty , forty, fifty, or even sixty years to come. It is also a reference to the farming term that means an uncultivated forty-acre patch of land with infinite growth potential that lies in a remote, back area of the farm.

Regardless  of your particular age, you might call your first half of life “The Front Forty.” In that first half, you’ve experienced uniquely individual events with “stuff” happening to you that may have fostered a mindset of limitation shaping the way you see your life moving forward.

The Back Forty proposes that your Front Forty, first half of life, is all about research and development (R & D)  and that you don’t, and even can’t, begin your true purpose until you’ve completed that R & D.

Further, The Back Forty asks you to embrace the concept that nothing that has ever happened to you could limit you in any way from being who you came to be or doing what you came to do in this … Continue reading..

Another Perspective On Helping Our Kids Make Friends – by Ali Skylar

December 9, 2020

The other day I was talking to a mom who is just incredibly overwhelmed helping her two young teenage boys figure out not just how to do school online, but how to create friendships online.

As many parents know, making and keeping friends is probably one of the biggest challenges our kids encounter during their school journey. 

It can be heartbreaking seeing your child ignored, possibly bullied and just plain not liked by his or her peers.  

I started thinking back to when my son was that age (pre-pandemic world) and the creative ways and the amount of time we would invest in trying to help him make friends.  

For me, and what I’ve witnessed in other parents, we felt such an enormous responsibility and anxiety around “making sure your kids had friends.”  And if they didn’t have friends, or couldn’t make friends just “being themselves,” then both the parents and the kid felt that “something was wrong.”

And that’s why both hubby and I felt it was so important to help our kids find their passion(s), the things they could do everyday that made them feel happy to be here on planet earth!

Now, as the parent of an Continue reading..

How to Balance Your Career with Motherhood

December 7, 2020

For moms who want to maintain a career outside the home, as well as being an active parent, it can be tricky to get the balance right. However, you shouldn’t feel forced to choose between your professional career and your child. With the following tips, you can ensure that you continue to be both a fantastic parent and a valued employee:

1. Create a Workable Schedule

You’ll need to develop a schedule that best suits your family. Instead of working 9-5, for example, you may find that shift work is particularly advantageous. Alternatively, working through the night could give you the flexibility to manage school drop offs and pickups.

When it comes to finding a work schedule that meets your needs, think outside the box. An increasing number of employers are implementing more flexible programs, so make the most of this chance to create a sustainable schedule that allows you to be present at home, as well as at work.

2. Take Accelerated Courses

Obtaining a qualification may be necessary to further your career. Even if it isn’t mandatory, you’ll find that having advanced credentials may significantly increase your employability. As a working mom, however, you may not have the … Continue reading..

I’m the oldest of 8, and yet I’m an only child by Pamela Francis

December 4, 2020

It was Thanksgiving again and even though we are supposed to be staying put and not super-spreading Corona all over the country, invitations to Thanksgiving dinner were still being bandied about. Popular gal that I am, by Thanksgiving Eve Eve, I had gotten 1 invite. People know that I move around a lot and they probably aren’t sure where in the country I currently am, or so I tell myself to dull the pain of rejection and exclusion I always feel when I look up and realize no one’s begging me to come see them for the holidays. But my 1 invite was from one of my seven brothers and sisters. The youngest one, as a matter of fact. Imagine that. I have three adult sisters (45, 40, and 34), and four adult brothers (49, whatever age Dorian is, whatever age Derek is, and 34). Notice the double 34-yr-olds. They are twins.

So my 34-yr-old brother is the one who told me where Thanksgiving was being held this year. It was at his twin’s new house. Hmph.  :-/

She hadn’t even mentioned she was BUYING a new house.

I can’t trip. I’d been in South Carolina for a year and … Continue reading..

Tips for Raising a Child with Chronic Pain

November 30, 2020

Chronic pain is a very common condition among adults, but that’s not to say kids cannot experience it as well. According to a study, 20% to 35% percent of children worldwide suffer from chronic pain, with 3% requiring intensive rehabilitation.

The good news is that with a concerted pain management strategy, you, along with your healthcare provider, can help make your child’s condition more tolerable. Here are five tips:

Identify the underlying condition

Before you attempt to take matters into your own hands and develop a pain management plan, ensure you know the source of your child’s pain. Your primary care physician can help establish the course and determine if it is possible to eliminate the discomfort by treating whatever underlying condition might exist.

See a pain management expert

Pain management experts are healthcare providers trained to assess pain and prepare personalized treatment plans. Established practices such as Seattle Pain Relief have the right personnel and equipment to get to the bottom of your child’s condition. If you choose to see your primary care physician first, there is a good chance they will refer you to a pain management specialist, so it may actually be more affordable and convenient to … Continue reading..

“Story Pirates” Launches Immersive “Sleep Squad” Theater Experience to Help with Bedtime, Review by Andrea Santo Felcone

November 27, 2020

I’m always excited to tell you about fun new things you can try with your children—especially at this time when fun new things seem in short supply. But, I’m especially excited to tell you about “Story Pirates” and their new creative endeavor: “Sleep Squad,” as it touches on something very close to my heart. When I’m not writing for Motherhood Later, I’m lucky enough to teach creative writing to children. My students and their stories have enriched my life—immeasurably. The imaginative stories of children are also what makes up the very heart of “Story Pirates”.

I first heard of “Story Pirates” when my youngest son was in elementary school and they visited as an assembly program. If you don’t know “Story Pirates”, they are a nationally-renowned group of top comedians, musicians, authors and incredible teachers who create content that celebrates the imagination of kids. They have school literacy programs, which use kid-created content as the seeds of inspiration. They now have a very popular podcast (the winner of the 2020 iHeartRadio award for Best Kids and Family Podcast), which has been downloaded more than 25 million times. The podcast features songs and sketches based on stories written by kids, so … Continue reading..

Raising Good Humans by Hunter Clarke-Fields (Book Excerpt)

November 25, 2020

There are probably a lot of wonderful things about your parents that you want to pass down to your child: creativity and encouragement, open and honest discussions, and your mom’s special pancake recipe. Reactivity? Explosive anger? Um, no.

Once you establish a steady meditation practice, you can expect your reactivity to reduce over time. It’s certainly helped with my explosive anger problem. But we can do more to help excavate your inner Zen-mama or papa. In this chapter, I’m going to share an exercise that will help you understand why you’re triggered. On a practical basis, we’re also going to talk about how to yell less and some practices you can use in those heated moments to help you chill out and become less reactive.

Kids Bring Up Our Stuff

The early years of parenthood can make us feel like we’ve totally lost our marbles. We are under intense psychological strain. We’re back in the parent-child relationship and it’s hard to recognize how much we’re bringing all of our baggage from the past. For me, when my daughter didn’t listen, it brought up my unresolved issues around not feeling heard. But at the time, I had no idea this was … Continue reading..

Not Again?!?!?!?! By Ali Skylar

November 18, 2020

CHARACTERS:  Ali, mom, and Chaz, her 21 year old son

SETTING:  Ali and Chaz talking on the phone

CHAZ:  So mom, good news, I can def take the flight tomorrow at 2:15. Get home a week earlier for Thanksgiving.

ALI: Yay!  Work let you out?

CHAZ: Yep, I’m good to go.

ALI: Okay, let me go change the initial reservation for next week and I’ll call you back once it’s confirmed.

CHAZ: Okay, bye.

They hang up, Ali makes the new reservation, and 30 minutes later calls Chaz back with the details.

ALI: Okay, love so here’s the new….

Chaz interrupts.

CHAZ:  So mom, bad news.  

ALI:  Oh shit, let me guess.

CHAZ:  Yep, it happened again.


CHAZ:  Look it’s been 5 months and I’ve hung onto all of my important stuff.  But of course, the night before I’m flying I can’t find my driver’s license.

ALI: You gotta be kidding me dude!

CHAZ:  Mom, I looked all over for it everywhere three times.  I checked my car, my laundry, my pants, my mattress, my wallet, my…

ALI:  Gotcha hon.  You checked everything.

CHAZ:  It sucks.

ALI: OMG what is it with you and flying? This is the Continue reading..