Blog for Later in Life Moms Over 35


Our group for later in life moms features mothers and experts sharing.  We share about living life fully over age 35, and write not just about parenting experiences, but life, growth, aging, etc.

Given Robin’s personal passion for sharing cool finds, travel destinations, unique attractions and theatre going, she and others write periodic reviews of products, services, trips, Broadway and Off Broadway shows and other forms of entertainment, attractions and leisure pursuits….whether for kids, moms or couples.

If you’d like to submit a topic, product, destination, event, show or attraction for consideration, write robin@motherhoodlater.com.  Happy to hear from you!

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Me, Motherhood, and a Wise Woman by Julie Wheaton & Patrece Powers (Book Excerpt)


Tuesday
February 2, 2021

She makes it look so easy.

She looks so together.

She has a clean house.

She has a nanny.

She doesn’t spend enough time with her kids.

She spends too much time with her kids.

She doesn’t need to work.

She is so smart.

She is so creative.

She has a husband who helps with the kids.

She is having an affair.

She volunteers for everything.

She is in great shape.

She is a control freak.

She doesn’t even know where her kids are.

For each statement, a different woman comes to mind, proving once and for all that “she” doesn’t exist. “She” is a reflection of me. Criticism takes root when I pay more attention to images and concepts than I do to my intuition and to what resonates internally as truth.

Patrece reminds me that, “More often than not, people show us only what they want us to see and tell us only what they want us to hear. We then make comparisons with other mothers, their children, and their lifestyles. However, let’s not tire ourselves into believing that we know enough about another to judge who is better than and who is lesser than. We are still … Continue reading..



’True Mothers’ (Japanese movie w/subtitles): Review by Hannah Singer


Friday
January 29, 2021

I am an adoptive mom of an 8th grader, adopted from birth, just like the adoptive parents in this movie.

When I was offered to review this movie, I was somewhat reluctant. Even after all these years, I am sensitive to the situation. Basically, I didn’t want to be upset or cry all day. Heaven knows we have a lot to cry about these days. And so I am looking for things to bring me joy. I am happy to say, this movie did just that. It brought me joy. Yes there were some tears towards the end, but it came from a different perspective which surprised me. What I mean by that, is that I cried deeply when the adoptive mom showed empathy to the birth mom. After accusing her of lying, she apologized. This part got to me and I cried for a few minutes. It was a good cry, from a good place.

The movie begins with beauty in nature, a recurring theme throughout. It takes place in Tokyo which is on Tokyo Bay and near majestic mountains as seen in the film. It is a different look of Tokyo from the last Japanese film I had … Continue reading..



Valentine’s Day Goodies for the Men in Your Life by Robin Gorman Newman


Tuesday
January 26, 2021

Periodically I like to review new products that come to my attention…..and with Valentine’s Day approaching, I wanted to share a cool, edible, gift idea. If you are like me, it can be challenging to figure out what to give the men in my life….so this caught my eye…..

Jerky isn’t something we keep in the house regularly, so it was a novelty treat to be offered the opportunity to sample something from this company.  We were sent the Beef Jerky Flower Bouquet, and it made an instant impression when it arrived today.  My teen son, a huge jerky fan, was highly amused by the unique presentation….and loves the keepsake glass. He nibbled on some of the jerky…..the hot was definitely hot….so he preferred the other flavors.  He doesn’t want to eat it too quickly, as it’s serving as cool decor on the desk in his room, as he attends his classes fully remote.  I know what he’ll be snacking on, when he’s doing his Zoom studies!  My husband got a quick taste, but my son quickly took ownership of it.

Each bouquet’s “vase” is a Manly Man pint glass and is pre-arranged, sealed and packaged fresh with oxygen

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Move from Sadass to Badass – Book Excerpt from NOT DONE YET! by Bonnie Marcus


Tuesday
January 26, 2021

Words matter. Words are powerful. Author Yehuda Berg says, “Words are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity. We can choose to use this force constructively with words of encouragement, or destructively using words of despair. Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate, and to humble.” Yet, in truth, we rarely understand the influence our words have on others and especially on ourselves.

Without words, our thoughts can’t become reality. Words describe our moods, our opinions, and our emotions. When we say we’re pissed, people get it. When we use words to let others know we love them or we’re disappointed, they understand what we’re feeling, perhaps in a way they could not before hearing the descriptors. Words enable us to communicate with others and build relationships. But most importantly, we use words to describe to ourselves who we are and our future path. Words have the ultimate power of influencing a life of positivity or one of difficulty and despair.

For example, how many times have you described yourself as “forgetful,” “unattractive,” “over the hill”? We use a whole litany of negative adjectives, unaware that … Continue reading..



Flipping Parenting On It’s Head! by Ali Skylar


Friday
January 22, 2021

For me, one of the benefits to being an older parent is that as I’ve gotten older, I’ve gotten wiser.  Wiser though in ways I wish I had been when my kids were younger.

I don’t believe that anyone – no matter whether you’re a younger or motherhood later mom – goes into parenting confident, assured and feeling like “I’ve got this covered!”

On the contrary, parenting can be one of those experiences where you are thrown into the lion’s den of unassuredness, confusion, vulnerability and terror that you’re going to get everything wrong!

For many of us as newbie parents, we see these little beings as sponges, blank slates that are here to soak up all of our teachings, guidance and support.  It’s up to us to mold them, shape them and help them become happy and healthy and functioning beings in the world.

But what if they came here to teach us?

What if they came here to heal our childhood traumas?

It wasn’t until I was introduced to Dr. Shefali Tsabary on an Oprah episode that my whole approach to parenting got turned upside down.  In a good way…

Recently, on a trip home for the holidays, Continue reading..



Raising Your Spirited Baby by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka, Ed.D. (Book Excerpt)


Friday
January 15, 2021

Excerpt from RAISING YOUR SPIRITED BABY by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka, Ed.D. Copyright © 2020 by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka. Used with permission by William Morrow, an imprint of HarperCollins Publishers. All rights reserved.

 

Chapter 3

What Do I Need to Stay Calm So I Can Calm My Baby?

Untangling Our Emotions, Reframing Our Experiences, and Getting Support

 

“If you start thinking negatively, like, ‘She’s driving me crazy,’ you’ll get frustrated. But if you think, ‘She isn’t settling because she’s smart and her mind is working very fast,it’s easier to stay calm. Well, maybe not in the middle of the night when she’s screaming and your partner is sleeping, but most of the time it helps.”—Teri, mother of three

 

It is not a figment of your imagination: You are working harder as the parent of a spirited infant. German researchers Mechthild Papousek, Michael Schieche, and Harald Wurmser document that the cues of spirited babies are more subtle and difficult to read. These babies truly can shift from fine to furious like an atom shooting through space. It is not easy to provide the warm, sensitive responses they need. In my experience with thousands of parents and babies, … Continue reading..



“Journey Around My Bedroom”, a live-streaming show for children–review by Andrea Santo Felcone


Friday
January 15, 2021

I’ll admit I was intrigued about this show right from the title: “Journey Around My Bedroom.” Afterall, I’m sure I wasn’t the only child to spend a great deal of time in my childhood bedroom, dreaming up any number of adventures. (My sister and I were always trying not to capsize off my bed and fall into the “hot lava” of my 1970s red shag carpet.) This topic, of course, is very timely for today’s youth, who have been staying at home (many since last March) due to the pandemic. If today’s children haven’t already seen their bedrooms in a new light—one lit by their imaginations—along comes this interactive puppet show to enlighten them.

In “Journey Around My Bedroom”, a nine-year old girl, Xavi, has been stranded in her bedroom since last March. When Xavi has trouble sleeping, she decides to open up a book her Mother left for her: “A Journey Around My Bedroom” by Xavier de Maistre. As Xavi opens the book, the Great Explorer, Xavier de Maistre, floats out of its pages in his hot air balloon over Paris and into Xavi’s room in Manhattan. (When he plants a flag into a pile of clothes on Xavi’s … Continue reading..



It’s Never Too Late by Kathie Lee Gifford (Book Excerpt)


Thursday
January 14, 2021

Even though it’s been twenty years since I left Live with Regis and Kathie Lee, I still get asked about Regis almost every day. He was an incredible part of the American landscape for more than five decades and a true pioneer in the television industry. People also ask, “What was the secret to your success?” We always had the same answer: “Fun.” Simple as that. There was not a scripted moment. We had no writers— everything was spontaneous and real. And I’m certain that is why it lasted as long and as successfully as it did. We were authentic. Love us or loathe us, viewers knew they were getting the real deal.

So much of our culture today is manipulated, photoshopped, and edited into sound bites. Over the years I’ve been asked to participate in reality shows, but I’ve always said no because they aren’t “reality” at all. They are planned and produced and manipulated to titillate and entertain to the lowest common denominator, which usually includes some form of human degradation. I simply cannot watch people be devalued in any way, let alone participate in a show that promotes this.

A part of our not being respectful of … Continue reading..