Blog for Later in Life Moms Over 35


Our group for later in life moms features mothers and experts sharing.  We share about living life fully over age 35, and write not just about parenting experiences, but life, growth, aging, etc.

Given Robin’s personal passion for sharing cool finds, travel destinations, unique attractions and theatre going, she and others write periodic reviews of products, services, trips, Broadway and Off Broadway shows and other forms of entertainment, attractions and leisure pursuits….whether for kids, moms or couples.

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Pocahontas, Buffy, and New Heroines by Lisa Selin Davis, book excerpt, TOMBOY: The Surprising History and Future of Girls Who Dare to Be Different


Monday
May 11, 2020

Ode to Jo

Pocahontas, Buffy, and New Heroines

Around the time that Girl Power and Sporty Spice were drop- kicking the tomboy off the screen, a new publishing trend emerged: girl crisis literature, inspired in part by the American Association of University Women’s 1991 report Shortchanging Girls, Short- changing America.2 The report found that girls’ self-esteem plum- meted in adolescence and that boys were outperforming them all over the map, in school and at work. Mary Pipher’s 1994 book Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls joined several similarly themed books that same year, and literature about the crisis of low self-esteem, declining academic performance, and eating disorders among America’s female adolescents itself became an industry. It promoted a problem that Girl Power—the sexy, commercialized version, not the Riot Grrrl version—seemed to solve in a way that the promotion of tomboyism in the 1970s hadn’t. Girl Power must have reached far more girls than tomboy- ism did.

The crisis, it turns out, was mostly found among middle-class white girls, something the media, so populated by middle-class white people, failed to note. If white girls were becoming meek in adolescence, African-American girls were being reprimanded for not being meek … Continue reading..



How to make my Rose Bowl inspired Floral Themed Mother’s Day card by Pamela Francis


Sunday
May 10, 2020

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And Then They Stopped Talking To Me: Making Sense of Middle School by Judith Warner (Book Excerpt)


Tuesday
May 5, 2020

We’ve all been there.

It might have happened last week.

Picking up your son outside his middle school, you watched as he stood on the sidewalk while his classmates swirled around him, leaving for sleepovers, birthday celebrations, or impromptu parties that came together right under his nose. His frozen smile as he stood there, hanging in until the last minute in the hope that an invitation might come his way, made you crumble inside. As did the knowledge that, other than try to offer up an alternative weekend plan for family fun—which he would undoubtedly dismiss as “just sad”—there was nothing you could do to help.

It might have happened last year.

You bought your daughter a too-expensive white Abercrombie dress for her eighth-grade graduation because, she said, “everybody” was wearing one, and you knew how badly she wanted to fit in. But, on the morning of the ceremony, when she went to join her classmates, you realized that “everybody” was, in fact, only the clique of rich, popular girls who had dropped her two years earlier. They were all lined up, posing as their parents snapped pictures. When they saw your daughter walking toward them, they burst into laughter. … Continue reading..



Empower Your Parenting with Less Anxiety by Noel Foy


Friday
May 1, 2020

I was four sons into motherhood and still hadn’t reckoned with my anxiety. I hadn’t gotten help, mainly  because I had no awareness I could have any power over my anxiety and didn’t have a clue anxiety was treatable.

My anxiety was on spin cycle…What if my sons didn’t like school or played too many video games? What if they got hurt in contact sports? Was their diet healthy enough? Was the youngest child getting ripped off…when was the last time I read that child a book? And fast forward several years…What if they crashed the car? (they did).

Catastrophic thinking, “what ifs,” and fears of uncertainty and imperfection seemed “normal” parts of my day I’d just have to get used to. Physiological manifestations—rapid heart rate, jumpy knees and tight chest—were sensations I’d just had to live with…permanently.

How wrong was I.

When one of my sons was diagnosed with post concussion syndrome, I immersed myself into a world of neuroscience and learned about the impact of stress on the brain. For the first time, I became aware that an anxiety disorder was a combination of nature and nurture. Whoa! This nurture part was breaking news and sparked … Continue reading..



Pandemic Reflections by Sharon O’Donnell


Thursday
April 30, 2020

I really don’t know where to begin. Who ever could have imagined we’d find ourselves in a situation like this back in January? Or even early February? My childhood best friend (and also still a best friend of mine now) flew from Tampa to see me and my family on February 20th through the 24th; at that time, Covid 19 was not a consideration. Yeah, we heard something on the  news about it, that it had been in China and Korea and even into Italy. But it became a dire situation so quickly.

My 95-year-old father was scheduled to have hip replacement surgery on March 11th after years of incredible pain and bone loss that he had lost most of his mobility and had to be transported around the house in a wheelchair. My 95-year-old mother was still in their house with him, and my three siblings and I had been taking turns staying with them. In October, we had hired a caregiver to come in from 10 pm ’til 7 a.m. so that we could focus on the days. We were looking forward to the surgery decreasing my dad’s pain. At that time in March, most of the warnings … Continue reading..



Secret Motivations of Teacher Moms: The real reason moms become educators by Pamela Francis


Monday
April 27, 2020

Gotta say, I’ve been getting quite the chuckle out of all the articles and blog posts from beleaguered, pinch-hitter homeschoolers in the wake of the Corona-mandated shut down of our nation’s schools. I don’t know… Maybe it’s still too tender to take a jab in the ribs of ANYthing Corona-related, least of all the plight of our newly under-schooled little munchkins and their mamas, but eff it. I’m going in.

So now that the cat is out of the bag on so many things pertaining to schooling your little demons… like, how excruciating it is. And… how much un-compensated work is involved… and… how “challenging” your little sugared-up, You-tubing, FortNite-playing smarty-mouths can be… day in and day out… from 7am sometimes to 7pm – (when I was the after school teacher, too…), I figured, why not let it all hang out…? Why not tell.it.all?

I once had a fellow teacher ask me how is it that a mom of two could stand to be around other peoples’ kids all day for a living? Aside from knowing exactly who I was dealing with in this moment – a woman in her forties, with no children, who had sadly NOT been apprised … Continue reading..



8 Ways to Help Your Child Cope With Stress by Alexandra Eidens


Monday
April 27, 2020

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Photo by Chinh Le Duc on Unsplash

 

Just like us adults, kids experience stress. School-aged children face academic pressure, peer conflict, family changes and many other kinds of stressors each day….especially at this time with all that is going on in the world.

Psychotherapist Lynn Lyons emphasizes that kids should be taught the importance of coping mechanisms early on.

Here are 8 effective ways to help your child manage their stressors and worries:

Use positive reframing strategies

Reframing helps children view their problems in a different way. It acknowledges the stressor while also providing a more positive perspective.

Children can learn to reframe in a few easy steps. First, help them identify the thoughts associated with their problem (“No one likes me” or “I’ll never get a good grade on this test.”) These types of worry thoughts start a chain reaction of other negative thoughts and feelings.

Next, help them find an alternative thought to replace the original one. If your child says, “I’ll never get a good grade on this test,” suggest an alternate thought like: “If I work hard and study, there’s a good chance I’ll do well.”

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Prescriptions for Life on an Even Keel by Pamela Francis


Sunday
March 29, 2020

I never wanted to be a doctor. Or a nurse, for that matter. Or even a psychotherapist. When I dispense my “healing advice” there’s no appointment necessary, no copay, no danger of an ensuing malpractice suit. You can take it or leave it and I won’t badger you about when’s the last time you… And why haven’t you… And I bet you’re not even…

None of that. In fact, I’m so laissez-faire, some might even accuse me of being “suppressive” of good information. When I was a very active Scientologist — back in the Tom Cruise’s kids and their pet squirrel are in my office right now days — I once was asked, while “strapped” to an e-meter, if I wanted others to know about the gains I was making in Scientology. Like, did I want all of mankind to be privy to “the secret” that Scientology works. And I’ll admit there was a pause that made the needle move indicating that I might like to keep that under wraps. Which would make me, what? a bad person? Or at the very least, sinister LOL.

But again I don’t think it’s really that deep. I think I’m just a fan … Continue reading..