Blog for Moms Over 35
Our group for older moms over 35 parenting later in life blog features moms and experts sharing. We share about living life fully over age 35, and write not just about parenting experiences, but life, growth, aging, etc.
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April 27, 2017
“Saying yes … saying yes is courage. Saying yes is the sun. Saying yes is life.”
—Shonda Rhimes, “Year of YES”
I’m always so suggestible at the hairdresser’s. I don’t know why. Maybe it’s the fresh haircut signifying the promise of a fresh start? Maybe it’s the chance to “hit the reset button” every six weeks? Whatever the reason, it’s always at the salon where I make my vow to try something new. Admittedly, these ideas come to me from the pages of glossy celebrity magazines.
One year Marisa Tomei and her “HoopBody” DVD caught my eye. Marisa looked so happy “hooping her way to fitness”. So, I caved, purchased the DVD and hoop and voilà, I was able to beat my childhood hula hooping record (of two minutes). (How often in adulthood are you able to “better” your childhood self?) But, alas, the hoop and I have parted ways after this initial “rush”.
Then early last year, I found Shonda Rhimes calling to me from inside PEOPLE magazine. Shonda (of “Grey’s Anatomy” and “Scandal” fame) was promoting her book, “YEAR OF YES”, and wanted to tell me that she, too, lets fear stop her from experiencing a fully-rich life. … Continue reading..
April 26, 2017
Train Your Kids
“Motherhood is nonstop madness, emotionally unpredictable in ways you’ve never imagined. It is often thankless and faceless, and if you’re doing your job right, your kids shouldn’t even notice 99% of the time that they have an excellent parent. They push as hard as they can, and it’s our job to push back, because the world does not suffer fools easily and the consequences in real life are enormous compared to any limits, controls, or punishments we can set as parents.”
Each of my children has their own big, bold personality.
Jax wants to play for MLB and can’t understand why school needs to interfere with practice. But Blakey, my baby, is the most independent one of all. I’m convinced she’s the reincarnation of my grandmother, a beauty with a personality like no other who knows what she wants and won’t take no for an answer. I adore each and every one of them for who they are, even if they do have a knack for pushing my buttons. I try to be a cool mom and not nag incessantly, but sometimes there’s no way around it. I’m not asking for that much, simply … Continue reading..
April 25, 2017
As I now prepare for my oldest child, Ocean, to leave in August for college, I am amazed by her beauty, her smarts, and her bright future! Watching my baby transform into a butterfly, where she is going to continue to spread her wings and color her world and the world, I feel tremendous gratitude and happiness for her.
Am I going to miss her? Of course! Is that going to get in the way of her breaking out of her cocoon? Absolutely not! My role is to help her transformation go as smoothly as possible, with as little drama as necessary.
Let me give you a little background about me, as mother. See, I never wanted to be a mother. Believe it or not, as now I am a full-time dedicated single mom of a tribe of five!! Even growing up, when my girlfriends played with dolls and imagined that they were taking care of their babies, I was outdoors climbing trees and exploring life! You can even say that I was a tom boy.
So what happened to me was a drastic turn of events when I turned 30, and craved for a deeper spiritual life (as I … Continue reading..
April 20, 2017
The inclusion vs. exclusion debate has raged on for decades and has reached new heights in recent years. Special needs parents fight for inclusion in the classroom as an avenue toward inclusion in society, and non-special needs parents worry about discipline problems and disruptions within a learning environment. Before tackling the grievances on both sides, a brief history helps to understand the current laws and how they came about.
Before the EAHCA (Education for All Handicapped Children Act) of 1975, special needs children faced discrimination and exclusion. Public schools accepted only one out of five children with special needs. Many states excluded children with specific special needs: blind, deaf, emotionally disturbed, or mentally deficient. More than 1 million special needs children had no access to public education. Many were institutionalized and given minimal care but no education or rehabilitation (US Dept. of Education). Those who entered public school received little or ineffective instruction to become independent.
The EAHCA ensures that special needs children receive education in the “least restrictive environment” that allows children to interact with non-special needs peers. IDEA (Individual with Disabilities Education Act) of 1990 updated special needs education to include plans that fit individual student … Continue reading..
April 17, 2017
Percy Jackson has newly discovered powers he can’t control, monsters on his trail, and he is on a quest to find Zeus’s lightning bolt and prevent a war between the Greek gods. Based on the best-selling Disney-Hyperion young adult novel by Rick Riordan, The Lightning Thief: The Percy Jackson Musical is a slam dunk crowd-pleaser for fans of the book and others.
Percy is tight with his mortal mother, Sally, but has disdain for his stinky stepfather, Gabe, and ultimately learns that his father is the powerful Poseidon. As a half-blood (or demigod), he feels different than other teens, until he joins half-bloods like himself at summer camp. Together they go on an ambitious mission, which includes freeing his mother from Hades, and in finding her, he finds himself.
I was not familiar with the book series, nor was my 14 year old son, but the story is action-packed and compelling, with both warmth and wisecracks, and the added bonus of an empowering takeaway message. Kids withh ADHD will find a kindred spirit in Percy, who reveals he has dyslexia and ADHD. Rioridan’s own Greek mythology-loving son, Haley, has both, and serves as the real-life inspiration for Percy. Percy’s … Continue reading..
April 12, 2017
Mums are defensive creatures.
We feel the need to explain why we do things. Why we feel things. Why we behave in certain ways. To explain that this isn’t usually what we’d do but we were short of time/it’s a treat/we are having a difficult day . . .
It’s definitely not just me. I hear other mums explaining themselves all the time. And I’ve come to the conclusion that this is completely unnecessary. There is just no need. The following are genuine justifications I’ve been offered during every day playgroup/ park conversations with other mums and the responses I wish I’d given (I think I probably just nodded):
‘I only got him a dummy because he whinges a lot and it helps him settle, I don’t really agree with them . . .’ Relax. A dummy is clearly working for you. I wish our two had taken a dummy but, alas, they did not.
‘She wouldn’t usually have a chocolate biscuit as her mid-morning snack, but we’re running low on fruit . . .’ Chill out. Honestly. So she’s having a biscuit. I can see she’s happy, healthy and I’m sure she has her fair share of healthy snacks, … Continue reading..
April 11, 2017
Garry tells the following story: “It’s a Saturday afternoon, and Panda is lying on the floor, on the verge of falling asleep, while I am reading a book. To an outside observer, it would appear that he is oblivious to the world. When I reach the end of the chapter, I stop, watch Panda dozing, and then softly say, ‘Walk?’ At the sound of the word, Panda transforms from a seemingly catatonic state to one of pure enthusiasm. His eyes pop open, he leaps to his feet, and he dashes to the front door, where he barks at me to hurry up. As he watches me get my coat and reach for the leash, his excitement level goes up by a factor of ten. Panda begins to whirl in circles and dance on his back feet while pawing the air with his front paws. His eyes shine, and he sports the biggest grin he can manage. Panda knows we are going outside to play!”
Remember when you were a kid and could transform that quickly when your friends showed up and announced they were going to play a game of baseball, soccer, or hide-and-seek? Can you recall the sheer … Continue reading..
April 7, 2017
As a parent, I know how easy it is for things to go from calm to chaos in the blink of an eye. The unexpected happens, our child gets sick, we have something come up short notice. Anything is possible to throw us off! Through years of working with other parents and families who feel the same way, I was interested in finding out the most common pain points in our day.
My research led me to this. The highest stress points are: Before school and before bed.
These are the times when we are either rushing around trying to get everything done on time, or we are exhausted and want nothing more than to go to sleep. These are also the times when we probably wish most for the quiet, yet we get the exact opposite.
As we all know, bedtime routines drag out longer than planned, and something almost always comes up in the morning to push us back further on our time schedules.
Here’s the good news: Your mornings and evenings don’t have to be stressful and chaotic. There is a way for everyone to follow a routine. Will it eliminate the unexpected or prevent every little … Continue reading..