Blog for Moms Over 35
Our group for older moms over 35 parenting later in life blog features moms and experts sharing. We share about living life fully over age 35, and write not just about parenting experiences, but life, growth, aging, etc.
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March 24, 2017
In my Bloggiversary post of October 2016 I may have mentioned some things that had changed dramatically in my life over a year’s time and would call for “a complete overhaul of my bio”. I may have dropped several bomblets, including one little tidbit that I had gone from “Momtrepreneur” to DoorDash driver. I’m ready to expound on that last one now.
So having run away from the Antebellum South back to my beloved California, two minor children in tow, sans spouse, I set about making myself indispensable again to my west coast clients. My primary home-launched business, Admin on-the-go!, a mobile executive assistance service for small businesses, creatives and executives, was back in the saddle with a vengeance and keeping me hopping from January through about May, which was great for my pocket and my self esteem until some power struggles and personality clashes began to rear their uncomfortable little heads. Without mentioning any names I can tell you that between the Beverly Hills Wealth Manager I was contracted with and his on again off again Recognizably Famous Significant Other, it felt like Heaven to take a big fat break from being my own boss and get behind the … Continue reading..
March 22, 2017
This past Saturday, my family and I had an opportunity to check out an interesting “pop-up” activity center known as “ARTech: Adventures in Art + Technology” held in the Meatpacking District of New York City. The Children’s Museum of the Arts and the New York Hall of Science (NYSCI) in partnership with the Meatpacking Business Improvement District (BID) is currently hosting this “pop-up” in a modern 8,000 square foot, vacant retail storefront.
Here, and elsewhere, STEM has been transformed into STEAM—the “A” of “The ARTs” added to the STEM mix of Science, Technology, Engineering, and Math. My sons love the Visual Arts and Engineering, so the whole idea of an Art and Technology “mash-up” sounded perfect.
We trekked from NJ to NYC, opting for public transportation (forgetting just how many transfers on The PATH that would mean). However, once there, we were rewarded for our efforts. If you haven’t been to the Meatpacking District lately, and you enjoy gentrification, you will be pleasantly surprised to find adorable restaurants, boutiques, and shops. (Sadly, I read most of the meatpackers have left the area.) However, my husband and I kept remarking on how “civilized” it was. Sometimes the hustle and bustle of … Continue reading..
March 20, 2017
When I was a in fifth grade, I won Honorable Mention for a science fair exhibit called “Close Encounters of the Worst Kind.” My entire exhibit was a regurgitation of the information I found in 1980s publications stating that marijuana was a “Gateway Drug” to heroin, something that has been disproven many times over since then but is still a falsehood perpetrated by our government today.
I smoked a little pot back in high school and college – always someone else’s. I smoked joints, tried some bong hits, and I ate a brownie once and remember laughing and bumping into walls. But the purpose back then was entertainment and escape.
One summer off from college, I worked in a head shop above a record store. I was educated about cannabis accessories, and well versed in recognizing undercover police officers trying to get me to say the products were for smoking “dope” so they could shut down the store. We marketed everything for “tobacco” use.
All of this to say, I’m not entirely ignorant about cannabis. Yet in my early 50s, I felt lost and embarrassed and somewhat afraid to look into this ancient medicinal plant to relieve the pain that … Continue reading..
March 17, 2017
(Excerpt from Finding Your Ruby Slippers: Transformative Life Lessons from the Therapist’s Couch)
Many things have happened throughout your life. Some of those situations have felt “wonderful” and others have felt “terrible.” Like most people you probably believe that life events and personal interactions are either “good” or “bad” and then respond to them accordingly. You might feel delighted, lucky, or grateful when “good” things happen, and angry, scared, cheated, or victimized when “bad” things occur.
But what if these events and experiences were mostly “neutral?” What if the way in which you reacted to them was rooted more in the meaning that you consciously or unconsciously attached to them rather than the experiences themselves? I realize this can initially feel like a radical idea. Surely there must be some life events that by everyone’s standards are just plain “bad” or “tragic” or “wonderful.”
And yet as a therapist I’ve witnessed people reacting in ways that seem to directly contradict how the world would think about and label certain experiences. It’s not uncommon for 10 people to witness or participate in the exact same experience and react in 10 different ways. It has made me realize that it’s not … Continue reading..
March 15, 2017
I have this candle that has tried to define me. It was given to my parents by what I assume was a well-meaning Aunt, as a present (for me) on the day I was born. I think she was my Mother’s Aunt through marriage, or maybe just through time and osmosis. I remember visiting her and discovering she had saved every sticker from every piece of fruit she’d ever eaten, and adhered the stickers to her kitchen cabinets in an interesting “mosaic”. Yet even with this “hobby,” this Aunt found the time to give my parents the hefty, pink, satin-ribboned, “Milestone Marker Birthday Candle”.
If I wasn’t sure I was a “late bloomer” beforehand, staring at my “Milestone Marker Birthday Candle” every year–solidified that for me. This candle, created in the 1950s, has a number line (from 1 – 21 years) featuring pictures next to the years identified as “milestone years”. For example, at the age of 6, I was supposed to ride around on my training-wheel-free bicycle. And at 15, the double-hearts with the arrow running through–could only mean I would find “true love”. And at 18, there’s the graduation cap (self-explanatory). And, of course: at 21, there is … Continue reading..
March 15, 2017
You’re nearing fifty, heading into uncharted territory of perimenopause and menopause. You’re feeling a bit depressed and/or anxious, you have no energy, you’re struggling with your weight, you’re losing hair, you would rather sleep than have sex, you have brain fog, and all of a sudden you’re suffering from IBS or acid reflux. In short, the vital, vibrant, charming, clear-headed, beautiful woman you used to know has been hijacked. A lady armed with the 4 F’s (Frazzled, Frumpy, Fat, and Fatigued) has moved in and taken over your body and mind.
You’ve gone to your doctor and were told that this is all part of the natural aging process. After spending ten to fifteen minutes with you, your doctor whips out his/her Rx pad and prescribes a sleep aid and an antidepressant or anti-anxiety medication to relieve your symptoms. Or he/she may have completed a series of tests and declared that everything is normal and sent you on your way. But you know what you’re feeling is anything but normal or good.
If you were given medication, you may have felt some relief, but that’s not getting closer to what’s really going on and why you’re still not feeling yourself. … Continue reading..
March 10, 2017
With smarts, sass (literally) and sensitivity, playwright Joshua Harmon (Bad Jews) tackles the subject of singlehood and tugs at you winningly with humor and heart.
Jordan and his crew of 20 somethings are inseparable, whether partying on the dance floor or crying on each other’s shoulders, until one by one, each of his BFFs meet their bashert, and he is left wondering what if he is destined to live a future alone. as a single gay man.
At age 29, he’s already feeling his biological clock….not to have kids….but, thanks perhaps to his close relationship with his beloved, widowed grandmother (the delightful Barbara Barrie) who he visits frequently, he is acutely aware of how growing into old age is peferable with a mate. She constantly inquires about his social life, only too aware of his challenges, and reminisces lovingly of Pop-Pop, Jordan’s grandfather.
Jordan had come to lean the most heavily on his reliable gal pals, until the last is about to walk down the aisle, and he has a a gut-wrenching meltdown.
“All the things you got from our friendship, you get from Tony now. Which is great. But all the things I got, things I really … Continue reading..
March 10, 2017
Be your own best friend. The trick is learning to embrace “In-Joyment”. Your joy is already inside you. True happiness comes from within. When you treat yourself with the respect you deserve, you will attract the happiness you desire. The only way to cultivate the light that is within you is to treat yourself with honor, with grace, with kindness, with integrity, and with self-love. Then you cannot help but glow.
“If you contemplate the Golden Rule, it turns out to be
an injunction to live by grace rather than by what you think other people deserve.”
~ Deepak Chopra, M.D. ~
The funny thing about happiness is that it is not about control. It is about consciously turning on your own internal lights and shining them out into the world to illuminate what is positive and right within your immediate universe.
Happiness begins when you admit to yourself that you deserve happiness in whatever form makes the most sense to you. While you might think you understand happiness right now, it’s your commitment to the H-Factor that adds up to sustainable happiness and well-being. When we are mindful of the H-Factor, which we covered before Key #1, we … Continue reading..