Blog for Moms Over 35


Our group for older moms over 35 parenting later in life blog features moms and experts sharing.  We also post periodic reviews of products, services, travel destinations, theater and other forms of entertainment, attractions and leisure pursuits….whether for kids, moms or couples. If you’d like to submit a topic for consideration, write robin@motherhoodlater.com.   We share about living life fully over age 35, and write not just about parenting experiences, but life, growth, aging, etc.

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Sleep Apnea – My Chat with Dr. Susheel Patil at John Hopkins University School of Medicine by Robin Gorman Newman


Tuesday
July 19, 2016

In an effort to continue to educate myself about sleep apnea, to further my desire to treat my case and to share with others who may benefit, I’ve been speaking with medical practitioners who are not treating me at present but are experts in the arena.

I had the pleasure to chat with Dr. Susheel Patil, and below is our Q&A.

When someone has been sleep deprived for a while, and if you endeavor to treat your sleep apnea, does it take time to feel good again?  Absolutely.  Given all the fragmented sleep someone has when they have sleep apnea, and even if someone doesn’t have it but doesn’t sleep well, you can develop a sleep debt that accumulates over time.  Once someone is doing successful treatment for their apnea, it can take almost a month or more of getting enough sleep and treating the underlying sleep disorder, before one really begins to feel rested.  Sometimes it can be even longer than a month.

Do you see any benefits of caffeine?  Not for the treatment of sleep apnea directly.  In terms of addressing some of the issues of the sleepiness that many people have with sleep apnea, it is something … Continue reading..



Healthy Living for Later Moms


Thursday
July 14, 2016

Motherhood is always challenging, and even more so for mothers who are in their late 30s, 40s, and 50s. In addition to having less energy to work with, older moms are dealing with different health issues than younger moms and often take longer to recover from having a baby. Here are six health issues of particular concern to later moms, and one overarching suggestion for how to deal with them.

High Blood Sugar

Gestational diabetes is much more common in later moms than earlier ones and is a condition that should be carefully managed by your doctor while you are pregnant. Usually, gestational diabetes goes away after the placenta detaches during labor. However, older moms are also more at risk for developing Type II diabetes. Eating a healthy, balanced diet rich in fiber and low in refined sugar is critical to preventing the onset of Type II diabetes.

High Blood Pressure

Hypertension is a common disease and your risk of developing it increases as you get older. Other risk factors include inactivity, stress, and being overweight, concerns common to new mothers. To prevent developing high blood pressure or to help manage your condition if you have hypertension, try to get … Continue reading..



Sleep Apnea – Medical Insight: My Chat with Dr. David M. Rapoport by Robin Gorman Newman


Tuesday
July 12, 2016

In an effort to continue to educate myself about sleep apnea, to further my desire to treat my case and to share with others who may benefit, I’ve been speaking with medical practitioners who are not treating me at present but are experts in the arena.

dr david rapoport3I had the pleasure to chat with the kind, wise and highly informative Dr. David M. Rapoport, MD, Professor of Medicine at Mount Sinai in NYC, a true pioneer in the sleep medicine field.

Below is our Q&A.

How does someone know what type of CPAP mask is best for them?  I have always been a very strong advocate of the nose rather than the mouth.  It’s more comfortable and interestingly enough, it works better.  Despite that, almost everybody in the field was, until quite recently, heading toward face masks because they thought logically you should cover up the mouth.  Turns out that’s not necessary, and in fact, interferes with things, except in the rare patient who has a very large leak out the mouth.  Most of us who breathe through the mouth when we’re awake stop doing so when we’re asleep.

If someone is sinusy, can a nasal mask be effective?  For some … Continue reading..



boys of summer by Pamela Francis


Tuesday
July 12, 2016

Summers were like a box of chocolates when I was growing up. You never knew what you were going to get. Would it be a total bore, rife with disappointments and nothing to write about later when the “what did you do this summer” questions arose? Would it be a grab-bag of surprises and never-saw-that-comings, full of new friends, unlikely romances and life-changing encounters…?

Often times I’d make a loooong ride (about 17 hours) in the back seat of my grandmother’s big Cadillac all the way from the Bronx, NY to Bamberg, SC. How I loved those times. I still feel the memories wash over me whenever a certain song plays on the radio reminding me of those days… The Eagles’ I Can’t Tell You Why… Steely Dan’s Peg… Earth Wind & Fire’s That’s The Way of the World… Though there would invariably be more mosquito bites than surface area on my exposed brown legs, arms, shoulders and ankles by summer’s end, I would spend hours on end running, playing, bike riding, tree climbing, mud-pie baking and just chilling on the porch with my southern suburban neighborhood of pals and cousins.

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Meet Later Mom: Rachel Lehmann-Haupt


Monday
July 11, 2016

rachelhauptAGE: 46
RESIDENCE: Northern California
CHILD: A Son, Age 4

Rachel Lehmann-Haupt is one of America’s premier experts on the future of family life, career timing, and the influence of science and technology on fertility and pregnancy, and is widely credited with coining the phrase ‘DIY Mom.’ An in-demand speaker and journalist, her writing appears regularly in the New York Times Magazine, Vogue, O, Glamour, Wired, Self, and more. She graduated with distinction in English literature from Kenyon College, and has a Masters in Journalism from the Graduate School of Journalism at the University of California, Berkeley (where she apprenticed under Clay Felker, the founder of New York magazine). Visit: http://www.lehmannhaupt.com/

What was your road to parenthood like? I decided to get pregnant as a single mom by choice at 40. I was lucky, it didn’t take me very many tries to get pregnant. I tell the story of journey in my memoir, In Her Own Sweet Time: Egg Freezing and the New Frontiers of Family.

What led to your decision to free your eggs? I froze them when I was 37 after a break-up with Mr. Wrong. It helped me feel calmer … Continue reading..



My Latest Fab Finds by Robin Gorman Newman


Friday
July 8, 2016

boogieboard2BOOGIE BOARD

I love this fun and totally cool product!  And, my 13 year old recently got his hands on it, and he now wants one.

Forget notepads or sticky notes.  Enter Boogie Board.  You write on the pressure-sensitive LCD screen with the included stylus, or even your fingernail, without wasting paper or ink. In this updated version, the stylus stores conveniently right in the top of the case. Tablet displays your notes until you erase them with the touch of a button. Durable case and recessed screen are safe for school, travel and home use. Sealed internal battery never needs replacing—lasts about 50,000+ erases.

It’s lightweight and fun for doodling or practical usage.  Great for long car rides or flights Comes in a bunch of colors, and makes for a unique gift.

 

HYDROCHIC: Sun Protective Active Wear for Swim & Sport

hydrochicHydroChic, celebrating its 9th year, is a line of modest swim wear for real women, that offers very cool and practical choices for those seeking more coverage.  But their line is so cute, it’s a great transition from pool or beach to physical activity in the sun or even the gym.

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Guest Blog Post: Perfectly Fertile Timing: An Antidote to the Panic of the Last Good Egg by Julia Indichova


Thursday
July 7, 2016

Julia_Indichova,_2011As an aspiring actress I spent most of my twenties and early thirties struggling to support myself. My elderly father, a recent emigrant, propelled by his own powerlessness and a wish to see me settled, never missed a chance to remark, “You know, once a woman hits thirty, something happens; somehow the flush of youth just isn’t there anymore.   “Well,” he’d add, mournfully, sliding his reading glasses back over his eyes and turning to his crossword puzzle, “maybe having children is not all that important.”  After each of these exchanges I would return to my one room studio apartment, and stare at the fine lines under my eyes. My growing desperation made all able-bodied males run for cover.

The one thing my father didn’t tell me was that unless I learned to love and take care of myself first, I was less than likely to end up in a happy union. By a sheer act of grace, in the form of extensive therapy, a few good friends, and countless consciousness-raising adventures, I began to follow my own truth. My father’s voice grew more faint, and a new voice emerged inside me, a voice I slowly came to recognize as my … Continue reading..



Approaching Menopause with Positivity by Carol E. Wyer, author, Grumpy Old Menopause (Book Excerpt)


Friday
July 1, 2016

carolmenopauseOne of the most frightening experiences I had was my first panic attack, also referred to as panic disorder. I believed I was going to die from a heart attack. Because of the hormonal fluctuations occurring inside the menopausal woman’s bodies, several physical and psychological effects take place, and panic disorder may be one of them.Panic attacks are characterized by unexpected and repeated episodes of intense fear accompanied by physical symptoms that may include chest pain, heart palpitations, and shortness of breath, dizziness, or abdominal distress. These episodes are referred to as panic attacks and may resemble a heart attack.

Once I learned what was happening, I was prepared for the next attack and dealt with it much better. After a few more attacks, I could control them. They nearly always occurred at night, and I found making contact with the floor or a bedside cabinet would help. (Except when I made connection with the bedside cabinet using my head.) Deep breathing and reminding yourself that it is not dangerous will help.

Anyway, let’s move away from the possible symptoms of the menopause by introducing positive thoughts.

Lauren Bacall once said; “I am not a has-been, I’m a will-be.”

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