Blog for Later in Life Moms Over 35

Our group for later in life moms features mothers and experts sharing.  We share about living life fully over age 35, and write not just about parenting experiences, but life, growth, aging, etc.

Given Robin’s personal passion for sharing cool finds, travel destinations, unique attractions and theatre going, she and others write periodic reviews of products, services, trips, Broadway and Off Broadway shows and other forms of entertainment, attractions and leisure pursuits….whether for kids, moms or couples.

If you’d like to submit a topic, product, destination, event, show or attraction for consideration, write  Happy to hear from you!

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Instant Family

March 15, 2008

Greetings. My name is Joanna Brody. One year ago I could not imagine writing a blog (what do I have to say?) let alone on a site for “later in life” mothers. Yet here I am today, 44, the mother of two, sharing my life and thoughts, tribulations and triumphs, with a group of women whom I can now call my sisters.

I have two children, Joey, exactly 10 months old today, and Lyra, who turned four months old last week. Yes, two children under the age of one- and no, not twins, and no, not fertility. One achieved through the miracle of adoption and one achieved through some miracle beyond medical science. My son’s birthmother is half Filipina, which is what my husband it. And my daughter was conceived quite unexpectedly, and even more unexpectedly, carried to term after I had four miscarriages in the four years prior. So two beautiful one quarter Filipino children, both of whom I am now convinced were destined to be with us and vice versa. All of this after I decided, and convinced my husband, that I was quite content to be child free. Hah!
In addition to our children, we have two
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How did that happen?

March 12, 2008

A little hello from the wild west in Prescott, Arizona. My name is Maureen VanWalleghan and Robin invited me to do some blogging here at Motherhood Later Than Sooner… I am a wee bit nervous…even though I am a writer there is something quite amazing to be living in a time when one’s words with the push of a button are available to anyone with the internet. Probably my age is showing, like a slip under a too small skirt. I have a feeling that as a blogger and mom this happens quite alot.

A bit about myself. I have a two and half year old daughter (H.) and have been married for three years. I came to the babymaking scene late. I had my daughter at 41 almost 42. I was somewhat surprised to find myself pregnant with my then boyfriend since I didn’t actually think I could get pregnant. Since I had always wanted to be a mom I decided to jump into marriage and go for it. Wow…what a shock to the system it has been. Before I met my husband I had been living a single life (for about ten years) in New York City as … Continue reading..

Back in the Dark Ages

March 10, 2008

Had a frustrating day today.

Came off a nice weekend and had hoped for a good chunk of productivity before Seth returned from pre-K today.

Well…you’ve no doubt heard the expression….we make our plans, and G-d makes his. Today was one of those days.

I was in the kitchen just about done heating up my lunch, thankfully, when everything blew. All power got zapped in the house. This is our second electrical outage in two weeks. WAY too many by my standards!

As a work-at-home mom, this threw my whole day out of whack. As someone who relies heavily on computer usage, particularly email, I was no longer in constant communication (maybe this is a good thing?!). I could still access email on my Treo phone, but it’s not the same as having my lap top.

Luckily the phones still worked. And, it got me thinking. In a way, I felt like I was living back in the dark ages, and it made me uneasy.

What did we do before computers? We relied on phones, and there is something to be said for that.

As a 40 something mom, I did not grow up with computers. It is different for … Continue reading..

Going Back to Work (1)

March 5, 2008

I’m going back to work within a month. It’s been ten months. On the last day of work (early June 2007), I was four months pregnant. This April, I will be back at work, with a four-month-old baby. Moments during these blissful days of hanging out with my daughter, I am experiencing anxiety on several levels.

First of all, the babysitter search. So far, only family members took care of the baby, with me as the primary caregiver. I was rarely away from the baby, and during those times she was taken care of by her father or her grandparents. We are now looking for someone to care for our baby for eight hours a day, two days a week, while both parents are away from home.

We will interview candidates, observe how they are with the baby, check their references, try them out, and pay attention to our gut feeling. After going through a rational and reasonable selection process, I know that we will have done our best to ensure a good care for our baby. Surely, many parents develop great relationships with reliable and loving caregivers. Surely, some who are not happy with their babysitters/nannies reach an amicable … Continue reading..

Under the Weather

February 26, 2008

I hate to be a complainer, but here goes anyway. So, please forgive me if I sound like a broken record….but what does it take to keep yourself well as a mom?

I found out yesterday I have strep throat, and this time, I caught it from our nanny. Now, don’t get me wrong. I am grateful to have a nanny, but unfortunately, she isn’t great about taking care of herself, and I’m often walking around the house spraying Lysol. But, this time, it didn’t work, so now I’m on antibiotic, and feeling rotten.

This caps off an already super sickly season at our home, including colds, pink eye and the stomach flu. I can’t even think of the last time we have all been totally well. And, we take vitamins.

Someone said to me that it’s because the weather in NY hasn’t been consistently cold, enabling germs and various viral strains to circulate freely. I, personally, have no clue….but I am tired of being ill….and I’m not a fan of antibiotics. I stocked up on the yogurt, which I was told is advisable to offset the effect of antibiotics. I can’t each much anyway since it’s hard to swallow, … Continue reading..

One Hundred Days

February 25, 2008

It’s been one hundred days (and some) since our daughter was born last November. According to Korean tradition, a baby’s birth is celebrated only after 100 days. Until then, people did not openly celebrate nor even acknowledge the birth, for fear of triggering the jealousy and wrath of a particular goddess in charge of babies. For 100 days, the baby and the mother are confined indoors.

Of course, we being westernized and all, took the baby out to the public after 6 weeks with an okay from her pediatrician and an okay from my OB. Where did we go? To K-Town, of course. Complete strangers (almost always older Korean women) ooh’ed and aah’ed at our baby, while not hesitating to opine:
“What a cute baby!!”
“Thank you.”
“How old?”
“Six weeks.” Or “Two months.” Or “Two-and-a-half months.”
“You mean the baby is not yet 100 days?”
This was then followed by a quick, closing remark such as “I guess times are different.” “What has the world come to?” “You must be very healthy, like an American woman.”

Last weekend was sweet. During our weekly K-Town trip, I had several chances to reply with my head up high, “She passed her … Continue reading..

Loveseat Blues

February 19, 2008

It was the first piece of furniture my husband and I ever bought together—a loveseat and matching sofa pullout bed. Made of heavy burlap sack material, in thick striped beige and navy blue design with detachable back cushions (that I later would hate picking up off the floor incessantly), over sized armrests, the seat cushion accommodated my 6’ 1” husband’s leg span comfortably.

Tom and I had been together two years—one dating and one engaged and were moving into an apartment in Forest Hills, New York. We were nervous-$1,100 total for the set. Until then, the only other large purchase we had made in the thousands was my engagement ring and deposits for our Long Island wedding.

The salesman at Sofa Bed World in Farmingdale convinced us…“virtually in-destructable, scotchguarded for rugged durability—colors will match anything—throughout life. Your kids will take ‘em to college with them.”

Kids. We grinned sheepishly at each other and plunked down the credit card and went out for celebratory ice cream, marveling at how compatible our taste in furniture or, now looking back, lack thereof was.

The delivery guys came to our Forest Hills apartment and we prayed as they shoved the sofa bed into the … Continue reading..

The Half Day Deal

February 6, 2008

I ask you….what is the deal with a half day in kindergarten?

Seth starts this coming fall, and he will have either two or three days when he only goes for three hours. He is in pre-K now, and goes for five hours.

We are not happy about this.

He will be going to a different school, come fall, and unless we want to send him to a private school, this is the way it will be.

He’s been in nursery and now pre-K from 9AM – 2PM since he turned 3.5, and it’s been really good for him. He’s learning, socializing, growing, etc….in ways that I have to imagine he wouldn’t were he home during those hours. Although, when I was a kid, I didn’t go to nursery school, and I turned out “ok” (I think). So, no doubt, there are different schools of thought.

But to go from more to less doesn’t make a lot of sense to me. And, this isn’t true of all school districts. We live in Great Neck, NY, and it’s the case here.

So, now we’re trying to figure out what to do with Seth when he gets home early those days. We … Continue reading..