Blog for Later in Life Moms Over 35

Our group for later in life moms features mothers and experts sharing.  We share about living life fully over age 35, and write not just about parenting experiences, but life, growth, aging, etc.

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My Mommy Briefcase

October 27, 2007

I originally posted this on the Working Woman blog but thought it would be fun to have here as well!

When I was single, I used to have those embarrassing moments when I’d reach into my overstuffed purse for a pen during a client meeting and out comes a slew of tampons. Now that I’m a mommy, the fallout tends to be diapers and sippy cup. Not as embarrassing but still not so professional. I’ve been feeling like I need a Mommy Briefcase.

Okay, I’m using the term “Mommy Briefcase” loosely. I don’t know about you, but I’m not really one to carry a briefcase. I’m more into the “everything bag,” a canvas or nylon sack where I just toss everything into it. Not very professional. So I decided to find an attractive bag that I could carry to client meetings that didn’t look like a bag lady’s accessory.

I found a great compartmentalized bag from SkipHop that could also serve the dual purpose of professional looking purse and stand-in diaper bag so I wouldn’t have to carry my bag and a diaper bag whenever I had baby in tow.

The bag is great, however, I somehow manage to overstuff … Continue reading..

A Life of His Own

October 12, 2007

We went to an Open House at Seth’s pre-K last night, and I always find myself feeling very sentimental when I go to his school. It’s like I become that much more aware of the life that Seth has outside of me and his home. His new teacher spoke highly of him, and others in the school commented on how he proudly walks into the classroom wearing his favorite firetruck polo shirt. And, how he’s always smiling. And, how much he grew in height from last year….since he went to the same school.

He’s becoming his own little person, and I can see a greater level of maturity in him. He’s not a baby anymore (though he’ll always be my little guy), and he’s already made his first classmate friend. He came home with a note in his school bag recently from the teacher. It said that Seth has become friends with a boy named Nathan, and that perhaps we’d like to do a playdate after school. I was given the name/number of his mother. We spoke, and got the boys together. It was so cute to see them engage in their own dialogue, even as it relates to school…an … Continue reading..

Pushing Buttons

October 6, 2007

I didn’t plan to blog on this subject, but I need to vent at the moment.

It is never a dull moment as a parent….both good ‘n bad.

This morning, Seth went out with Marc to do errands, and they returned while I was taking a shower. Next thing I know, Seth is on the floor of my bathroom playing with the sliding bathroom door, and managed to pull it partially off the hinges. I know he’s just four years old, but it gets frustrating living with a person, despite their young age, who has no regard for things in their home.

I know he didn’t intentionally plan to break it, but the damage is done. And, Marc is as far from a handy man as you can get. So, what now? And, how much will this cost to fix?

I realize in the scheme of things, this incident is not a biggie, but it all adds up. Seth would surely not like it if I were to break his toys (not that I’d do that). Yet, this is not the first thing he’s wrecked in the house.

I think part of it is that I spend so much time … Continue reading..


October 5, 2007

My in-laws gave us a generous gift for the baby, with a card that said “for the baby-to-be.” It was refreshing to read it.

The stage that I am in has been investigated by anthropologists who coined it “liminality.” As humans move through major stages of life, many cultures (if not all) designate a period that is in-between stages, marked with a set of rituals (rite of passage). One obvious example is adulthood (often for males), and another, death. When a person enters this in-between stage, that person belongs to a transient stage, often isolated from society, and the normal social rules do not apply. To my knowledge, not much is studied about the phase that I am in: I am neither a mother nor a non-mother. I am pretty much removed from the normal social environment (since my maternity leave started), and I am definitely treated differently.

At 36 weeks, I feel that I am verging on the cross-over. I am called a “mom” from time to time, although it is clear that I am not one yet. I am a non-mom and a mom at the same time. What do you say, Dr. Schrodinger?… Continue reading..

The 4 Hour Work Day…Sucks

September 26, 2007

First, the good news: I’m feeling so much better both physically and mentally than a year ago or even 6 months ago, and I’m diving into my work with gusto. I really enjoy the creativity and the intellectual challenge. And I love the fact that I can work from home.

Now, the not so good news: I still only get 4 hours per weekday to get my work done. And I’m now doing an 8 hour day workload, at least that much, and it is spilling out over those 4 hours when the babysitter is here.

So now, I’m dealing with:

1. Frustration because I can never get the work done that I need to get done each day.

2. Stress because the work is piling up and seeming unmanageable when I know I’m totally capable of doing it – and want to do it – but can’t.

3. Guilt because I sneak onto my computer the rest of the afternoon when Noa wants to play or have me read to her, and all I want is for her to watch a bunch of videos to give me a few more minutes to work.

Extending the babysitter’s time here is … Continue reading..

Living the Sandwich Generation

September 25, 2007

I am living the Sandwich Generation life…..and I don’t mean grilled cheese or pastrami on rye (though I could go for a good swiss melt one of these days). :)

My dad turned 89 on 9/2, and he’s been having health challenges. I feel like we’re in a medical circus. He’s going from doctor to doctor, incessantly describing his symptons,and thus far, has not received a diagnosis. I’ve accompanied him at times, and other times, have faxed him a list of questions to have answered. It’s been hard. I’m not sleeping well, and it’s constantly on my mind.

I’ve mentioned my situation to a few moms I know, and others have shared similar challenges with their senior parents. This is one of the big scenarios that can potentially come with parenting later in life.

You read a lot about balance when you become a mom, and trying to keep it all together in terms of your personal and professional life, if you are working. But, what’s equally as hard is finding balance in taking care of yourself when you’re caring for a young child, and trying to be there for an elderly parent. Nothing prepares you for this.

When I … Continue reading..

Choosing a pediatrician

September 14, 2007

Yesterday, we went to an interview with Dr. R. Just like M and V from the group said, she was superb! There were three other women at the interview. Fortunately for us, one women came with a list of questions about many things: bottles, breastfeeding, pacifiers, immunization, HPV screening policies, etc… She even had a question about circumcision, and she is having a daughter!

For us, it was important that we get a female doctor (since we are having a daughter) with a sunny disposition, open-mindedness, and good training. The number of years at practice was not too important.

We found out that she went to Yale (where my husband went) and her parents went to UCR (where I am). That was the icing on the cake. We had another interview set up with another doctor in two weeks, but cancelled it and decided to go with Dr. R.

Are you looking for a pediatrician? Do you already have one? What factors are(were) important in your decision?… Continue reading..

Confessions of a Later Dad by Robin Gorman Newman

September 13, 2007

I caught the season premiere of the Oprah Show on tv this week, and David Letterman was her guest. Broadcast specially from New York, much was made of Letterman’s long-awaited appearance since he had joked for some time on his late night show about wanting to be on Oprah.

So, here they were. Two larger than life media powerhouses shooting the breeze. Letterman, who leads a very private life, for the first time that I have seen, opened up like a regular person versus someone who is “on.” What I found most interesting was when the conversation pertained to his family life. Letterman, 60, along with his longtime 40 something girlfriend, is a parent to four year old Harry. He showed photos, and glowed as he spoked of him. Clearly, this is a “later” dad who never expected to become a dad, and he is super grateful for it.

What struck me was his candor. And, since you don’t often hear from an “older” dad, it was refreshing. He said that one of the things he finds most challenging is the concept of “patience vs. discipline.” And, I immediately thought, I know what he means.

When your child acts up, … Continue reading..