Blog for Later in Life Moms Over 35

Our group for later in life moms features mothers and experts sharing.  We share about living life fully over age 35, and write not just about parenting experiences, but life, growth, aging, etc.

Given Robin’s personal passion for sharing cool finds, travel destinations, unique attractions and theatre going, she and others write periodic reviews of products, services, trips, Broadway and Off Broadway shows and other forms of entertainment, attractions and leisure pursuits….whether for kids, moms or couples.

If you’d like to submit a topic, product, destination, event, show or attraction for consideration, write  Happy to hear from you!

Click to determine which type of writing opportunity is best for you.


September 5, 2007

One of the members in our group made the transition from a mom-to-be to a mom last week. Everything seems to have gone smoothly (from what I can tell from her email), breastfeeding and all. So far, most of the women I have met experienced non-dramatic, non-traumatic childbirths. It feels good to know that a childbirth goes smoothly, no complications, no ER-type drama. Because, although it is interesting to listen to stories of Nightmare in the Delivery Room (as some people seem to be eager to share), it is encouraging and comforting to listen to stories of “uneventful, nothing to write home about” births. And I pray mine will be one.… Continue reading..

Challenging Myself

September 3, 2007

I am on the path to adventure and self discovery….at least for the moment…..and hopefully longer. And, who would have thought that motherhood later in life would bring it out in me.

Being the mom to a busy four year old boy has always kept me on my 40 something toes, but these days, I feel like those toes are reaching higher.

Seth has been off from camp, and school hasn’t started yet, so all last week, Seth & I became pool rats (we have one in our community). Not only did we have a blast, but I took on a personal challenge.

After days of eyeing the deep end of the pool, I took the plunge. I swam where I could no longer stand. I realize for some that this is no great feat, but for someone who isn’t a confident swimmer (except on my back), this was an accomplishment. I applauded my effort and am now contemplating taking swimming lessons to actually be able to do laps doing the crawl stroke.

Yesterday, we spent the day with friends at Splish Splash in Riverhead, NY. Most of the time we watched Seth and his friend play in the kiddie … Continue reading..

I Need a Post Vacation Vacation

August 25, 2007

The vacation verdict is in.

Travel with a four year is not a vacation in the true sense of the word.

We returned this week from a 10 day stay upstate. While it was good to get away, I can’t say that I’ve come home rejuvenated.

Seth completely rejected the notion of trying the kiddie camp, so downtime for Marc (my husband) and I did not exist as I had hoped.

It was nice to spend time as a family without the distractions of home and my typical To Do list, but I’m sure you can guess who dictated, for the most past, our choice of activity at Mohonk Mountain House, the resort where we stayed.

We went boating, attempted fishing (though I’m not keen on the whole worm thing….or the idea of spearing a living creature), explored the grounds, took a stab at hitting golf balls….etc. But, most of our time, on a daily basis, was spent either at the indoor pool or man made beach lake area.

I did manage to squeeze in a massage, which I adored, and had fleeting pockets of time to read and take an art class. What I really wanted most was the … Continue reading..

What does full-term mean?

August 21, 2007

According to my “Pregnancy Journal,” 77 more days to go until due date. I do understand that “77” means “anywhere between 63 and 91 days”, of course, with the doctor’s permission. It is interesting that although many books say a normal full-term is between 38 and 42 weeks, I have yet to hear about a doctor who is “cool” about waiting 2 weeks, whereas I hear more about doctors who are ready to induce if one is but a day overdue. I wonder if it has to do with the AMA (advanced maternal age), or a simple sampling error (after all, I’m not talking about hundreds of such cases), or selective memory on my part. All in all, I should probably ask my doctor at some point: do you believe that a full-term pregnancy is between 38 and 42 weeks?

Our group met and had lunch last week to wish V who is due this week good luck. She did look like she was ready for her baby. I try to imagine her showing up to our meeting in a few weeks, with her baby outside her. I am very excited. I can’t wait!… Continue reading..

40 Something Birthday Quandry

August 9, 2007

My birthday is Saturday, and I don’t know how to celebrate. We leave on vacation on Sunday, so there is much to do to prepare, but I don’t want to lose sight of my special day.

Growing up, I was always super sensitive about my birthdays. I recall one year my parents gave me presents in advance of my official day, and I got all upset because they came early.

This year for some reason, while I want to celebrate, I don’t feel so hung up on having to do something super special. I originally thought I might go into Manhattan, shop around, and meet up with my husband and Seth for dinner. But, now I’m thinking, that maybe I’ll just chill with them at our community pool and eat out some place local that I either love or have been wanting to try.

I was chatting with a mom friend about it today who said her husband has a 50th birthday approaching, and she wondered what to do. I’m not as yet at that milestone, but it got me thinking about how I’d want to celebrate when my time comes. Would I want to host a splashy affair, or … Continue reading..

Hypochondriac and pregnant

August 6, 2007

It’s been about a month or so, I have had strange soreness in my groin area, on and off, nothing serious. I attributed it to the extra weight I have been schlepping along: no big deal. Until last Friday. The pain was sudden and breathtaking, I could barely walk, and with a limp at that. I got scared.

I had to take Human Gross Anatomy as a part of my graduate training. It’s amazing how much information is retained after all these years. I visualized the cadaver we had to dissect, focusing on the groin area, and pinpointed the part that was most painful: inguinal ligament. Gasp! OMG, am I having an inguinal hernia? An image of an inguinal hernia (the man looked like he had three sets of genitals), branded in my brain simply because it looked so awfully painful, flashed in front of my eyes. I took a closer look at myself in front of a mirror. My thighs indeed looked weird, like overstuffed sausages. The pain felt like it was spreading through my thighs. Maybe the nerves are damaged…. What if I cannot walk anymore? What if……??!!

While I was madly writing my own medical drama, my … Continue reading..

Hold that Vacation Thought….

August 3, 2007

Seth’s last day of summer camp is today. Where does time go? June and July totally flew, and before you know it, he’ll be in pre-K in September.

We leave in a week for what has become our annual family trip upstate NY. We vacation with my dad, my sister, her husband and her two kids. It’s a special bonding time for Seth and his cousins who he seldom gets to see since they are on the competitive tennis circuit.

Our vacation spot offers a fun kiddie camp. In past years, it’s been up for grabs whether Seth would go into the camp or not. If he elects not to, it changes the whole dynamic of the trip for Marc (my husband) and I. I like to use, at least some of the time away, as an opportunity to stir up my creative juices. It’s such a beautiful place, and I try to hide in one of the many secluded thatched huts perched high on a cliff around the lake, and disappear into my own thoughts. Something I seldom get to do at home, with all the clutter of every day busy life. I bring books I’ve been longing to … Continue reading..

Are we ready?

July 27, 2007

My friend came for a visit. She took a tour of our place and commented how modern, clean, and well-kept it was. Then she declared that the place was not ready at all for a baby. She pointed out what could be done to make our place baby-ready: the bookshelves and the desk in the master bedroom have to go to make room for baby stuff….no, you can’t have the baby in the room at the other end of the hallway, are you crazy? You will regret the several extra steps you will have to take to take care of the baby in the middle of the night…. the CD case and the 1000 CDs contained within have to go, unless you are happy to let the baby play with them as toys…of course, the baby will LOVE to teethe on them…the audio system has to go, or get a cabinet that has doors that can be locked!…(but where are all these stuff going to go? The basement and make it hands-off for babies? That’s absurd!)….since the grand piano cannot move, you might as well make peace with the fact that the finish will be smudged all over with grease … Continue reading..